Cooking for NF

[Anonymous]

I know this has been covered before. I searched and couldn't find any threads relating to this...please be kind
I love my NF! They are flexible and kind. In return, I work my tail off for them and accomodate requests to come in early/stay late frequently. This week has been particularly rough for them. DB started a new job and has been traveling non-stop over the last week and will travel all next week. MB works a high-pressure job with long hours. On top of that, their dog was diagnosed with cancer yesterday. They're having a challenging time.
DB will be home 1 night next week. I thought it would be a nice gesture to make dinner for them that night so they can relax a bit.
I'm a great cook, so I'm sure they'll enjoy it. Is that something an MB/DB would like or appreciate? I don't want to cross any boundaries.
I pitch in when I see something needs to be done. I fold laundry, vacuum, sweep, load/unload the dishwasher, light dusting, etc.
I know those things are helpful but I already do them.
Any input will be appreciated. Thank you!!

[Anonymous]

No, as long as it doesn't violate any dietary / religious restrictions, I would be thrilled with anything the nanny made.

[Anonymous]

I would not want it unless I knew you very well. Not everyone cooks cleanly (washing cutting board well after cutting raw chicken before cutting up salad on the same cutting board).

Maybe it'd be best if you offered this, rather than surprised them.

[Anonymous]

I have never had a problem surprising my employers with dinner. I'd suggest making something simple, unless you really know their tastes. A lasagna that they can eat from for a few days would work well, or another casserole or pasta dish. I also will occasionally bake them a bread loaf if they have any over ripe fruit laying around. My MB always buys too many bananas, so she gets a lot of banana bread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not want it unless I knew you very well. Not everyone cooks cleanly (washing cutting board well after cutting raw chicken before cutting up salad on the same cutting board).

Maybe it'd be best if you offered this, rather than surprised them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not want it unless I knew you very well. Not everyone cooks cleanly (washing cutting board well after cutting raw chicken before cutting up salad on the same cutting board).

Maybe it'd be best if you offered this, rather than surprised them.

They trust me to cook for their son. I don't think this is a concern for them.

[Anonymous]

I personally enjoy cooking / planning dinners and so I might find it a little inconvenient if I had something planned for that night only to have dinner covered. Like if I had chicken that needed to be cooked the night before expiring and came home to find pasta made, that might bug me. However I'm a nanny and not nearly as busy and have no kids so I guess that makes a difference.
I would just offer maybe via text during the day. "Hey DC and I have some free time and I know you guys are really busy right now, I'd be more than happy to make dinner. It would be a fun activity to do with DC, just let me know!"

[Anonymous]

I think it is very nice and thoughtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not want it unless I knew you very well. Not everyone cooks cleanly (washing cutting board well after cutting raw chicken before cutting up salad on the same cutting board).

Maybe it'd be best if you offered this, rather than surprised them.

lmao

[Anonymous]

I guess the consensus is no.

[Anonymous]

I doubt you would be fired over it!! I think they would see it as a beautiful and nice gesture!! I say GO for it!! Of they have something pre planned they will freeze it!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely cook for them! If it were me I would bring it up first and just let them know you'd like to do this for them and would roasted chicken or grilled salmon be more to their liking (or whatever). That way if there ARE any objections or concerns they can be raised then. The surprise of the offer will be just as nice as the surprise of the dinner and that way there is no chance of anyone being caught off guard and failing to appreciate your excellent work. You sound like a great nanny, OP, and I'm so happy to hear of another positive nanny/MB&DB relationship where going above and beyond is a gesture of kindness and is, presumably, reciprocated in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not want it unless I knew you very well. Not everyone cooks cleanly (washing cutting board well after cutting raw chicken before cutting up salad on the same cutting board).

Maybe it'd be best if you offered this, rather than surprised them.

I can't imagine someone I would trust with my children but wouldn't trust to make me a salad.

OP, I think this is a very generous offer, and will be much appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally enjoy cooking / planning dinners and so I might find it a little inconvenient if I had something planned for that night only to have dinner covered. Like if I had chicken that needed to be cooked the night before expiring and came home to find pasta made, that might bug me. However I'm a nanny and not nearly as busy and have no kids so I guess that makes a difference.
I would just offer maybe via text during the day. "Hey DC and I have some free time and I know you guys are really busy right now, I'd be more than happy to make dinner. It would be a fun activity to do with DC, just let me know!"

I was assuming that the OP would ask. I would love to have someone cook for me, but I wouldn't want to defrost something special for the evening, if I was going to get fed.

[Anonymous]

Lovely idea. You could just say "I'll sort out dinner for you on X night so you can relax, mabye a casserole or something." And do a little salad too. That way they can eat it when the want and have leftovers for the kids/the weekend or whatever.