Poor oral hygiene otherwise great nanny
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Anonymous
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We recently interviewed a nanny. She has great references and seemed like a great fit for our family the only problem is she has poor oral hygiene. I'm not just talking yellow stained teeth I'm talking black decayed teeth, looked like some were missing.
Would others hire her based on her experience and references and ignore the issue with the teeth? I know there are medical and genetic reasons for tooth decay and it's not always due to lack of caring for them. I don't want to lose out on a great nanny because of looks. Any advice greatly appreciated. |
Anonymous
| Looks like she doesn't have enough money to fix this problem. I wouldn't hold this against her and hire her if she sounds great. |
Anonymous
This. Before my current job, I hadn't been to the doctor or dentist in years because I had no insurance and couldn't afford the time off. I imagine my teeth would look much worse if I had also been unable to go to the dentist as a child. Would you hold being poor against someone? Because that's all this is. Maybe consider offering some insurance as well. ALL of you should consider making insurance part of your offer package. I don't think you'd take a job without it. |
Anonymous
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Do you know how expensive dental work is when you can't afford insurance? Thousands and thousands. Do you know what the dental insurance for people who do not get coverage from employers covers? Very little other than basic cleanings. I've spent close to 15 thousand in the past three years repairing the damage done to my teeth when I was uninsured for four years. Fillings are close to $200 each, implants are $4k and root canals are 2k. Cleanings at a cheap place are $200-400. That all adds up. It was more reasonable for me to pay out of pocket then wait six months for my own dental insurance to kick in 6 months later and it covered basically nothing.
Instead of judging why don't you offer health insurance with dental? Not everyone can afford insurance or get offered it. |
Anonymous
| Dental work is expensive even with insurance. The last time I had dental insurance is when I worked at a bank before becoming a nanny. It covered $1000 a year in services and didn't cost much less than that. Unless you have access to reduced rate services through a dental school or trade college, it can be prohibitively expensive even with insurance. |
Anonymous
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Offer her the job and a healthcare stipend. Maybe she'll be able to save enough to get some work done.
My DH lost an incisor when he was 24 and it was $10,000 for the replacement. Took him two years to save up and that whole time he was missing a front tooth. That's all just to reiterate dental work is pricey and she shouldn't be judged for the state of her teeth if otherwise an excellent candidate. |
Anonymous
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OP is nuts if that's what she's so worried about.
Get smart OP and give her dental insurance benefits. |
Anonymous
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I'm thinking op is just worried the nanny won't take care of her child's teeth if nannies teeth are bad.
Op as a nanny that has bad teeth, and slowly getting them fixed. I can tell you I am very diligent on caring for my charges teeth because I don't want them to endure the problems and pain I have. If she has great references I wouldn't let her teeth stop you from hiring her |
Anonymous
| Just an aside, though most people with nasty teeth probably didn't have top notch oral hygiene for one reason or another it's also possible that she had too much fluoride as a kid. That can make teeth turn black and get soft. |
Anonymous
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Op here, thank you everyone for the replies. I was being a little superficial, and was worried what others would think when the nanny would go on outings. I also did worry she would neglect my children's teeth and not brush them.
We are offering to pay for half of our nanny's insurance. Dj and I were talking and we would love to help her pay for the dental work she needs, as well as give her time off for appointments and any procedures. We just don't want to offend her by bringing that up. Any tips on how to bring that up without offending her? We did offer her the job last night and she accepted. She's coming by next week to go over the contract at which time we will talk about the health insurance and if possible our offer to help with dental. |
Anonymous
| Dh not dj |
Anonymous
While I think this is wonderful, please really consider the costs before offering. I would hate to be offered this and my employers later to stop paying after they realize how expensive it is. If her teeth are truly as bad as you say it's going to cost thousands. You also don't know her debt so her teeth might be low priority. However, I would be thrilled if my employers offered to pay for my dental work, I'd probably cry. |
Anonymous
| Op here, my DH and I are willing to pay up to $20,000 over the year, have 1 year commitment. If the job ends before the year then we will not pay anymore after employment enfa |
Anonymous
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Well that's bloody generous of you! Good for you and good for the nanny. Hope you're a marvellous fit!
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Anonymous
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Wait.
OP if you bring up her teeth, most likely you will offend her and she will quit before she starts. Just state all the benefits of the health insurance package and she will see dental and either use it or not. |