Feelings of loyalty Vs. Self-interest

[Anonymous]

I started nannying part-time and am moving toward a full-time career. The family I have worked for longest has expressed interest in me as a full-time nanny, starting in a few months. I have said that I'm interested, and am and was interested, but out of the blue a family. I babysit for has offered me a full-time position that I think would be a better fit for many reasons.

Job A would be live-in, with parents who aren't a great fit in terms of parenting approach, and would "need" very few hours (SAHM) so I think would ultimately resent having to pay me for full-time, even at live-in rates. Plus, the mom can be a little high-maintenance and micromanager-y, which I can deal with well right now, but I think would be an increasingly big deal if I were living with them and working with her full-time. But they are very considerate and generous employers and I love the children dearly.

The other jobs would be live-out, which is better for me since I live with extended family right now and pay very little rent, so the extra cash could go towards actual debt/expenses/savings. They are an awesome fit--similar views on most child-care approaches, and the parents both WOH, so I would have more space to breath/create my own routine. But I don't have the same history with them, so there is less guarantee on how we will interact long-term. Plus they are more modest people so I doubt I would get the same amount in bonuses, etc. that I have become used to.

[Anonymous]

What's your gut telling you?

[Anonymous]

I definitely wouldn't move in with family A if you already have concerns...would they consider doing live out for you?, that way you work full time but still have your space? Just make sure mom can give you enough hours if there is any doubt how often you'll be needed since she's at home as well.

Family B sounds better to me, personally, even if it's not quite as much money.

[Anonymous]

Family B.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's your gut telling you?

My gut is telling me that Family B is a better fit, but also that current MB would flip and I would lose a reference if I quit before she's done with me.

[Anonymous]

Just lie and say that your plans quickly changed. You could say that you're taking classes this summer or something like that.