DB lying on me?
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I seriously want to kill him. Up until now, we have had a pretty good relationship. Easy communication, respect, consideration and so forth. Today I got an email from the mom stating I need to be there at x time because DB can't be late to work again. Come again? In the 2 months working there, I have never been late. I normally have arrived 5 minutes early.
I call and DB said that I am making him late and his boss has gave him a warning. I told them I have always came on time and if he needs more time to get ready, I'd be willing to come in a half hour earlier. Here is what MB doesn't know. When I get there ( baby is still sleeping) and DB is on his phone. We chat and then once I get baby up, he gets ready. Normally takes him 45 minutes. I don't keep him and I have my own keys. I seriously don't see how I am making him late when I show up on time and I have my own keys to let myself in? I am furious that DB is just being lazy and putting the blame on me for his terrible time management skills. They don't want to pay me extra to come in a half hour earlier but I am suppose to " stop making him late". What do I do about this situation? Am I somehow overlooking fault in this situation? |
Anonymous
| I feel like he is putting the blame on me because MB is a serious tyrant. She is the dominant one and gets easily mad over everything. It pisses me off that he makes me the scapegoat instead of taking responsibility. |
Anonymous
| Why can't he get ready and take care of his kids at the same time. Tell them if they'd like to modify your hours, you are happy to come in earlier with additional pay. |
Anonymous
He only has one. A 6.5 month old who sleeps until 8:45 on the dot. He could easily get ready before I'm there. I did tell them I would come in earlier but they don't want to pay me extra, so they said no. |
Anonymous
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Explain to MB that you have not been late. If they require you there earlier they will need to pay you.
Start noting exactly what time you arrive. Maybe MB would appreciate a text when you arrive so she knows you're there. |
Anonymous
| The thing is they have cams so she will know when I arrive. The main thing is I shouldn't have to do that. He should be a responsible adult instead of putting blame on me. That is what I have an issue with. |
Anonymous
| I would text or document your arrival too. Cover yourself. With a baby that age, it is much easier. Put baby in a jumper or PNP if baby is away and let them play while you shower. |
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| You've got more than one kid there to deal with. |
Anonymous
The baby sleeps a very consistent schedule. He wakes up at 8:45 like clockwork. DB has enough time to get ready with no interruption. He is just too lazy playing on his phone. |
Anonymous
| I'd just tell mb you've been getting there ontime,baby is still asleep, and db doesn'tget dressed until you get there. I'd be very frank about it because I wouldn't want to take the rap for his irresponsibility. |
Anonymous
He isn't responsible. Document the time you arrive and if necessary let MB know what time he left. If that doesn't clear it up start looking elsewhere. Neither one of them wants to put responsibility where it belongs. |
Anonymous
| I would also start looking for other employment. If this DB is going to try to blame this on you and the MB is stupid enough to believe it, things aren't going to end well for you. |
Anonymous
+1 In the mean time, when you get to work, say good morning and that's it. Don't engage him in conversation, simply do your job, so he can't claim that you're keeping him. |
Anonymous
+2. you can tell your MB that you are there every day 5 minutes early and that you have never beign late, and send her a text every day when you get there so she knows. but the reality is that if they are complaing that your DB got a warning at work and that it is your fault even though you get to work 5 minutes your starting time, it is time to look elsewhere. |
Anonymous
0052+ that sucks that DB is blaming you! What a tool  sorry OP
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