When parents can't pay.

[Anonymous]

I am in San Francisco, but I think this applies across the board. I am working for a single dad with 3 kids. He has been recently left by his partner so everything is sort of a mess for the family right now. I have been working 5 days a week for about a month so far. DB has said that he is trying to get his finances in order and he will be able to pay me. He even gave me a date (January 13th) that he will give me cash. Right now he owes me about $1700. I feel that I want to be sympathetic to the situation but in the mean time, I will be working still for no pay (or pay to eventually be given). Part of me feels like this will work out in the end, the other part of me feels that my savings can only hold on for so long before I need my job to be a little more lucrative. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

I have a bridge to sell you....
Hello, get another job.

[Anonymous]

Wow he's going to screw you in the end! I have a feeling you wont see that money. FIND ANOTheR JOB ASAP!

[Anonymous]

Good grief 13:21, not every single post is troll. YOU are the only troll on here. Just because you have not experienced a particular situation, doesn't mean no one has. Pull your head out of your ass and live a little and you'll experience a whole world of people and situations that are distinct from your own!

OP, I would let DB know you NEED to get paid on Jan 13 or you will not be available any longer. Personally, I'd blow the dust off my resume and start applying to jobs that interest me because the writing is on the wall...he can't afford a nanny anymore and is most likely working on other options. I would also let him know you need a partial payment sooner so you can at least pay rent (don't tell him you have savings to cover this.)

Good luck, I hope things work out for all of you, but if he's willing to go without paying you now (esp right at Christmas) then he'll do it again. I'd be looking elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Op here.
Thanks pp. He sent me an email today to let me know that if needed, he can post date a check tomorrow (date it for the 13th). Should I do this?

[Anonymous]

It's up to you. I think he needs to do better -- can he pay you even a little bit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
Thanks pp. He sent me an email today to let me know that if needed, he can post date a check tomorrow (date it for the 13th). Should I do this?

You may, or may not, see some money. A post-dated check means nothing really. He can close that account before the 13th.
It's up to you. What happens to you, if you stay and still get no money?

[Anonymous]

Did he buy his kids nothing for the holidays?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he buy his kids nothing for the holidays?

He did not. The kids are 6 months and 2 years. They didn't notice. Relatives sent gifts for them but nothing extravagant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did he buy his kids nothing for the holidays?

He did not. The kids are 6 months and 2 years. They didn't notice. Relatives sent gifts for them but nothing extravagant.

So you think he's barely making the mortgage/rent, utilities and food?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
Thanks pp. He sent me an email today to let me know that if needed, he can post date a check tomorrow (date it for the 13th). Should I do this?

yes. Just to let you know, you can actually deposit it now and the bank is not obligated to honor that date. They're only obligated to honor corporate payroll check dates. You could write a check for six months from now and the receiver could cash it tomorrow, so don't get too hung up on the date of the check. I'd prefer cash in your situation and would probably ask from some kind of cash deposit...like $500 or so.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't have the money until the 13th, according to what he told OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
Thanks pp. He sent me an email today to let me know that if needed, he can post date a check tomorrow (date it for the 13th). Should I do this?

yes. Just to let you know, you can actually deposit it now and the bank is not obligated to honor that date. They're only obligated to honor corporate payroll check dates. You could write a check for six months from now and the receiver could cash it tomorrow, so don't get too hung up on the date of the check. I'd prefer cash in your situation and would probably ask from some kind of cash deposit...like $500 or so.

OP here.

If he post dates it to the 13th, I will cash it then. What is the point of me cashing now for him to say "we discussed this" and having it bounce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
Thanks pp. He sent me an email today to let me know that if needed, he can post date a check tomorrow (date it for the 13th). Should I do this?

You may, or may not, see some money. A post-dated check means nothing really. He can close that account before the 13th.
It's up to you. What happens to you, if you stay and still get no money?

Can you somehow manage if you keep working and don't get any money "later"? It all depends on what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
Thanks pp. He sent me an email today to let me know that if needed, he can post date a check tomorrow (date it for the 13th). Should I do this?

You may, or may not, see some money. A post-dated check means nothing really. He can close that account before the 13th.
It's up to you. What happens to you, if you stay and still get no money?

Can you somehow manage if you keep working and don't get any money "later"? It all depends on what you want.

I can afford to keep this up until the end of January.