Started crying!!!!

[Anonymous]

I stopped by my nanny familys home on Christmas and when I realized I wasn't getting a bonus i started crying and couldn't hold back. i actually went into the bathroom and pretended i didn't feel well. i no im gonna get heat for this but when you've gotten some type of bonus the previous year then you'd expect something . i did get a giftcard to my fav store and i appreciated it and i got a heartfelt card and a photo of my charge in a frame though and i overall love this family so i dont plan on going anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Are they in a financial crisis or something?

[Anonymous]

Why were you crying? Like specifically what was the issue? Were you just so disappointed? Or felt unappreciated? How much bonus did you get last year? Has anything changed?

[Anonymous]

Oh my god that was so inappropriate on so many levels! I would be livid if someone uninvited just stopped by on Christmas, especially an employee.

And how immature to cry because you're not getting a present! I expect that sort of behavior from a three year old, not a grown woman. A bonus is never something that should be relied upon. Good grief, OP. Grow up and pull yourself together!

[Anonymous]

next year stay home on Christmas! 86 kinds of weird!

[Anonymous]

Very weird, OP. Why were you at their house in the first place?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god that was so inappropriate on so many levels! I would be livid if someone uninvited just stopped by on Christmas, especially an employee.

And how immature to cry because you're not getting a present! I expect that sort of behavior from a three year old, not a grown woman. A bonus is never something that should be relied upon. Good grief, OP. Grow up and pull yourself together!

+1

[Anonymous]

Just had a thought: maybe they didn't give you a bonus because you do other unprofessional things similar to this stopping by on Christmas business.

[Anonymous]

op here and they told me i could stop by it wasnt like i just popped in with my hand out looking for cash and when i say crying i mean teary eyed not bawling and throwing a temper tantrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just had a thought: maybe they didn't give you a bonus because you do other unprofessional things similar to this stopping by on Christmas business.

How do you know she wasn't invited over? No where did she say she stopped by UNINVITED....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:op here and they told me i could stop by it wasnt like i just popped in with my hand out looking for cash and when i say crying i mean teary eyed not bawling and throwing a temper tantrum.

Nonetheless, you really should work on managing your expectations in the new year. Totally unprofessional behavior on your part.

[Anonymous]

OP, truth be told, I think anyone in any industry who received a bonus the prior year but then not the next year would be disappointed as well. Maybe the tears were automatic and that's okay. I'm glad you appreciate the thoughtfulness they did have for you in getting you something, even if it wasn't a bonus like you expected.

[Anonymous]

OP I understand being upset. Its hard to give everything you have to a family and not have that be recognized in an appropriate manner. I get that not everyone can afford huge bonuses, but I honestly believe that if you have chosen the most expensive, luxury even, form of childcare, you should not have cash flow issues such to the point that you can't give a significant gift to the person who bends over backwards every day so that you can live your fantasy of being big bad career woman AND supermom. (Hint: Its pretty easy to do when someone else dresses your kids, gets them to school, feeds them dinner, cleans your house, and does the laundry) think about that next time you spend a couple thousand dollars on vacation, or a new bag, but can't "afford" a bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I understand being upset. Its hard to give everything you have to a family and not have that be recognized in an appropriate manner. I get that not everyone can afford huge bonuses, but I honestly believe that if you have chosen the most expensive, luxury even, form of childcare, you should not have cash flow issues such to the point that you can't give a significant gift to the person who bends over backwards every day so that you can live your fantasy of being big bad career woman AND supermom. (Hint: Its pretty easy to do when someone else dresses your kids, gets them to school, feeds them dinner, cleans your house, and does the laundry) think about that next time you spend a couple thousand dollars on vacation, or a new bag, but can't "afford" a bonus.

OP, I can also understand why you would be upset also but I have to say this post is insulting. I'm an MB and let me tell you I'm not living any fantasy. I'm the one who gets the children dressed in the morning before I leave for work. When I get home from work I make dinner, feed them dinner, do the laundry and DH and I clean the house together. I have never received a bonus from my job, our last vacation was our honeymoon 5 years ago and I can't remember the last time I bought a new bag. Yet I still gave the nanny a bonus equal to a weeks pay. Not every MB has such an easy lifestyle as you suggest but can still treat the nanny well.

[Anonymous]

Consider having a job to go to every day your bonus. You are not entitled to a bonus. Most people don't get a bonus. Neither my husband nor I got a bonus this year or any other year.