Would you fire me over this?

[Anonymous]

I have been working the past 11 months with a wonderful family. My charges are 15 months and 3 years old. I love them dearly! I am a little hurt by what has transpired this morning. I asked my family if I could take a day off New Years Day and they said no. MB lectured me on how they need reliability and they would replace me if I decided to take off.

Let me make this clear, I've never missed a day of work or even been late. My days are normally standard but I come in sometimes at 5:30am and stay until 6pm. I stay late, show up early, completely run the household( ligh housekeeping, dinner( for charges and parents),
pickups, dropoffs, shopping, doctor appointments, classes, play dates, etc). I organize and execute everything.

I'm not too exoerienced( only 2.5 years as nanny) so I was stupid for taking a position that doesn't offer sick days or vacation time. The only day I get off is Xmas eve, Xmas and New Years Eve this winter. I asked off for New Years( they want me from 6am-7pm so they can have alone time). I asked if I could have that day off as I'd like to celebrate New Years Eve and a flat out no. They won't even be working.

I can't believe they would even fire me over this. I am seriously considering finding a new job ASAP. Am I out of line and they are right? I will work New Years because I don't want MB to be mad at me but I can't do anything the night before now.

Is this even a firing offense? I mean one day?

[Anonymous]

They are abusing you.
Get out of that hell hole.

[Anonymous]

Find a new position, if this isn't the straw that breaks the camel's back, something else will be and you will be out on your ass (pardon my language). You clearly go above and beyond. Not only do they not recognize that, but you aren't even being afforded basic benefits like ONE DAY OFF.
It may be the difficult choice, but you will be happier in the long run. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Why do you get New Year's Eve but not New Year's Day? Your post does not ring true, but if it is, you should obviously look for a new job, and ask for basic holidays, vacation and sick time next time. They aren't "abusing" you as another poster suggested. You accepted a job without holidays, and that's on you. Maybe its a bit cold of them to deny a request to take the day off, but its your agreement with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you get New Year's Eve but not New Year's Day? Your post does not ring true, but if it is, you should obviously look for a new job, and ask for basic holidays, vacation and sick time next time. They aren't "abusing" you as another poster suggested. You accepted a job without holidays, and that's on you. Maybe its a bit cold of them to deny a request to take the day off, but its your agreement with them.

Your posts make you sound like a real peach! GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you get New Year's Eve but not New Year's Day? Your post does not ring true, but if it is, you should obviously look for a new job, and ask for basic holidays, vacation and sick time next time. They aren't "abusing" you as another poster suggested. You accepted a job without holidays, and that's on you. Maybe its a bit cold of them to deny a request to take the day off, but its your agreement with them.

I see "happiness" is back. You sound like you would be an absolute joy to work for....smh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you get New Year's Eve but not New Year's Day? Your post does not ring true, but if it is, you should obviously look for a new job, and ask for basic holidays, vacation and sick time next time. They aren't "abusing" you as another poster suggested. You accepted a job without holidays, and that's on you. Maybe its a bit cold of them to deny a request to take the day off, but its your agreement with them.

I see "happiness" is back. You sound like you would be an absolute joy to work for....smh.

I'm a nanny geniuses. Its not about being fun to work for. Stop signing agreements you aren't happy with. That's how you get a job you like. You want paid holidays, including New Years? Ask for it. You want guaranteed hours? Ask for it. Don't want to do laundry? Don't agree to do it. Its really not that difficult to understand.

[Anonymous]

No this is " true". I originally had the day off but MB said she needed me because of a personal issue. Found out that isn't true a few days a go. I've decided to quit. If they can't give me one day off, I can't work for them any days. I'm so sick and tired of bad employers who feel they are entitled to everything. I'm not your fucking slave.

People wonder why we nannies quit. Look in the mirror.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been working the past 11 months with a wonderful family. My charges are 15 months and 3 years old. I love them dearly! I am a little hurt by what has transpired this morning. I asked my family if I could take a day off New Years Day and they said no. MB lectured me on how they need reliability and they would replace me if I decided to take off.

Let me make this clear, I've never missed a day of work or even been late. My days are normally standard but I come in sometimes at 5:30am and stay until 6pm. I stay late, show up early, completely run the household( ligh housekeeping, dinner( for charges and parents),
pickups, dropoffs, shopping, doctor appointments, classes, play dates, etc). I organize and execute everything.

I'm not too exoerienced( only 2.5 years as nanny) so I was stupid for taking a position that doesn't offer sick days or vacation time. The only day I get off is Xmas eve, Xmas and New Years Eve this winter. I asked off for New Years( they want me from 6am-7pm so they can have alone time). I asked if I could have that day off as I'd like to celebrate New Years Eve and a flat out no. They won't even be working.

I can't believe they would even fire me over this. I am seriously considering finding a new job ASAP. Am I out of line and they are right? I will work New Years because I don't want MB to be mad at me but I can't do anything the night before now.

Is this even a firing offense? I mean one day?

working 12.5 hours a day, no vacation, no sick time, three days off a year. now tell me that you work in NY, are paid $3 an hour and that your employer is an Indian diplomat and have goods news for you (one being you are not going to be her slave anymore).

I am jocking my I am seriously curious to know how much you make for that kind of work. and yes, I would quit too (and I am not a nanny)

[Anonymous]

I live in Chicago and make I make $600/week. My employers are white and legal - just like me.

[Anonymous]

You're in the wrong.

You ACCEPTED this. They TOLD YOU which days you would get off and YOU didn't think ahead and negotiate for more. Now you're taking your anger out on them for wanting you to honor your commitment when really, you should be angry at yourself for not having done a better job negotiating.

I don't think it's something to fire an employee over, but I would not give you that as a paid day off if you said you were taking it, and would not look upon you well for not honoring your commitments.

If you are not happy with the holidays you have, then after the new year, renegotiate your contract with your employers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No this is " true". I originally had the day off but MB said she needed me because of a personal issue. Found out that isn't true a few days a go. I've decided to quit. If they can't give me one day off, I can't work for them any days. I'm so sick and tired of bad employers who feel they are entitled to everything. I'm not your fucking slave.

People wonder why we nannies quit. Look in the mirror.

Maybe their personal issue is that their marriage is on the brink and they need a day to reconnect as a couple. You shouldn't care why they need you to work. Whether it's a minor out-patient surgery or to go shopping, it's none of your business. Look at our economy - you should be down on your knees thanking your lucky stars you have a job.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

When did she tell you that she needed you on New Years? Was it recently, like this week? or months ago? If she changed her mind and said she needed you on New Years you should have said "I'm sorry but I can't come in" ( as it wasn't part of your originally days).. If she said it months ago and you agreed to come in and now your changing your mind then i agree with your employers. You agreed to it. You can put your foot down and tell them and pray you don't get fired or you can suck it up and work like you agreed to do.

[Anonymous]

At this point it doesn't matter when she asked or you whether you get paid time off, the fact that she threatened your job after you asked once for a day off speaks volumes. She could have just said no, but instead went further and basically said you were replaceable and not a valued employee.

If I were in your place I would have quit on the spot, but I have savings. I totally understand your reason for leaving and would give two weeks notice as soon as you have a new position lined up.