Annoying playmate

[Anonymous]

MB's cousin lives 25 minutes away from them and has a child in close age to my charge. This child is hyper active and doesn't listen very well. I don't correct her because its not my place. The nanny does a good job at setting boundaries but the parents, (I've noticed when I've been around them) they don't work on correcting her hyperactive behavior. For example, they don't want her to jump on furniture but all they tell her is 'don't jump on furniture', they hardly give her timeouts. So when they want the nanny to follow ther protocol and not allowing 'Susie' to jump on furniture, the nanny does double duty making sure consequences are put in if she doesn't listen. So the nanny is the only to really correct her disruptive behavior. She's loud and a little too aggressive, so sometimes when we half play dates half of it is spent on her nanny correcting her behavior. She has gotten better about boundaries, but she's still too much for me to be around for a period of time. I guess my own fault is I can't handle being around a hyper active kid for too long, it drives me bonkers. But her parents don't help becaus ether don't work on correcting her behavior -when she pushes too much, or talks too loud at library or does not listen to re-directing. We don't see her all the time, BUTshe is my charge's family so we won't stop seeing her. Have you ever dealt with not being too fond of your charges? I feel terrible for even saying this but I just find her behavior irritating. In small doses I can deal with it but I know due or holidays she will be around more often and I'm trying to work on find a proactive way of dealing with it.

[Anonymous]

I don't really understand why it bothers you, when its not you having to deal with her. Maybe have all the playdates out of the home so that you are distracted and don't have to focus on what she does.
One of my ex charges friends was a bit hyper active. Her parents did give her consequences but she was just a crazy kid. I used to just not let her in part of the house so the mess and chaos was restricted to one part of the house only

[Anonymous]

If she has that much energy, you and the nanny should work together to encourage her to use that energy in a positive way.
Nice weather? Get outside! Run around. Set up an obstacle course for the kids to use. Play tag.
Too cold outside? Do Simon says: exercise edition. Jumping jacks, hopping in place, running in place, burpees, spinning. All sorts of ways to get energy out.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We do come up with games, it's not about that. It's about how she's too aggressive. Doesn't listen well and is too loud and she's re-directed ample times and doesn't get it. Why does my charge listen better and why is she not as oblivious to settling down when she needs to? The other one just doesn't get her behavior isn't cute, it's downright exhausting.

[Anonymous]

It does sound exhausting. Imagine what a time this other nanny has all week long!