The family I live with brought a known child molester to the house

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and I do a rent exchange for a basement apartment. Originally I did a straight exchange for a basement studio but another tenant moved out a year ago and I took over her space so it's like a one bedroom apartment and I only pay for the second space and do 30 hrs of childcare for the original space. It's affordable and in a great location. We have sort of a community living thing here...they have a finished attic and rent that as well.

I really like the family. I had planned to live here long time and adopt a child. (I was unable to conceive after two years of trying.) I did a nanny share last year and the moms both had babies and were on maternity leave so the kids came here. Occasionally, I still have kids come here but not often. The women who own the house are a same sex couple and they helped organize a fundraiser for someone they know to have a sex change operation. I read on the news this morning that this person was a convicted sex offender and am deeply disturbed that this person has been to the house multiple times, including times when I had children here. (Not that they're ever out of my sight, but still, I expect the place I live to be safe.) I am completely blindsided by this and asked the women if they had known about this. They said yes and everyone makes mistakes and the person they know is sweet and loving and it's just a smear campaign started by an old girlfriend. I totally get that everyone makes mistakes, but to me there is a big difference between not paying your bills or a one time DUI vs spending time in jail for repeatedly molesting a 13 yr old girl, and then changing your name and potentially gender when you get out of jail. I feel like I should have at least been told about this so I can quietly relocate the kids when the molester is around.

I would never allow any child I adopted to be in a place (especially their HOME) where there's a known molester coming around from time to time and if I were the parents paying me to keep their child safe, I would fire me. I am so angered that they didn't disclose this to me and when I told them as someone charged with keeping children safe I find this disturbing, they said to be disturbed if I want, but that's what the media wants me to feel.

Am I overreacting here? If you were in this situation would you move ASAP as well? Or does this person really deserve a second chance? I'm all for second chances most of the time, but this is horrifying to me...not so much that molesters exist (though that's horrible) but that there was one in my home...the one place I should be able to feel safe.

[Anonymous]

So you're worried about your nonexistent kids being exposed to a sex offender? Does it seem like maybe you're getting a little ahead of yourself..?

OP you know we can't tell you whether this person deserves a second chance. Was he 19 when he was dating a 13 year old or was she a 30 year old teacher who groomed a student for sex? So many things can land you on the SO registry and it's criminal that we don't distinguish between high-school relationships that are technically illegal but not actually hurting anyone vs. adults who seek out children to prey on. If you're so concerned about...your nonexistent children...meeting this person, ask the owners if they'd be willing to give you a little more information on their side. For the sake of your kids. And let us know how that goes.

[Anonymous]

This just has troll written all over it, and I HATE when people say that.
Just in case you are for real, OP, you should find a new place and a new job, mainly so that your judge mental ass is no longer around these people who have opened their home to you. If they feel safe having this person in THEIR home, around THEIR existing children and have attempted to explain the situation to you ( an explain action that you are obviously ignoring since you have somehow still concluded that this person molested a 13 year old girl), it is in no way your business to question things. I would be pretty pissed, as a parent, to find out you were questioning my parenting and insinuating that I did not care about my children's safety. It's incredibly disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

OP you should find out if this was a 18 year old who had a relationship with a 13, almost 14, year old. Yes, still wrong, still illegal but different than a fully grown adult who made unwanted advances to a teen. Is he a level 1, 2 or 3? If he's level 2 or 3 than I'd definitely be concerned.

I'm still on your side however. I wouldn't put my kids anywhere near anyone who managed to become a labelled sex offender.

[Anonymous]

1) people don't have sex changes to escape a criminal past. What a stupid, stupid comment

2) if you're renting a basement, you can't afford to adopt a child and will not be approved.

Move along now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) people don't have sex changes to escape a criminal past. What a stupid, stupid comment

2) if you're renting a basement, you can't afford to adopt a child and will not be approved.

Move along now

1) adopting through foster care is free

2) there's this thing called living beneath your means that allows you to save money. Try it sometime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) people don't have sex changes to escape a criminal past. What a stupid, stupid comment

2) if you're renting a basement, you can't afford to adopt a child and will not be approved.

Move along now

1) adopting through foster care is free

2) there's this thing called living beneath your means that allows you to save money. Try it sometime.

You will not be approved. A basement is no place to raise a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) people don't have sex changes to escape a criminal past. What a stupid, stupid comment

2) if you're renting a basement, you can't afford to adopt a child and will not be approved.

Move along now

1) adopting through foster care is free

2) there's this thing called living beneath your means that allows you to save money. Try it sometime.

You will not be approved. A basement is no place to raise a child.

+1. It has nothing to do with how much you have to pay to adopt a child. You actually have to be approved to be a foster parent or to adopted. Not a chance you'll be approved living in a basement.

[Anonymous]

This is definitely a fake, troll post.

And not even a good one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a fake, troll post.

And not even a good one.

pull your head out dumb ass. http://www.katu.com/news/local/Man-raising-money-for-gender-reassignment-is-convicted-child-molester-230209091.html

[Anonymous]

Exactly. A fake troll post.

Thanks for proving it, PP!

[Anonymous]

Id move outta there. Thats disgusting. If the convicted molester wants a sex change, then so be it. She still has rights. However, I imagine she still has to register as a sex offender. I would not want any contact with any type of convicted pedophile.