What is reasonable notice?

[Anonymous]

I have worked with the same family for 4 years. Things have really not been working for the last 6 months or so (just personality conflicts, plus drama with MB's work that makes her more stressed than usual). We have had several talks where I have said outright that I am unhappy and talked about things that could help (not difficult things, mostly just asking MB to make time to communicate with me without kids instead of bringing issues up in front of the children). I found a new job and gave 4 weeks' notice (contract requires 2). MB has been very unhappy with this and has specifically been guilting me about how impossible it will be for her to find someone in only 4 weeks "at this time of year." Reality check: am I unreasonable or is she?

[Anonymous]

She wants you forever. Good that you're moving on.

[Anonymous]

4 weeks is PLENTY of notice. If they're unhappy with 4 weeks, they'd be unhappy with any amount of notice at all.

[Anonymous]

Why don't parents make time to communicate with the nanny?

[Anonymous]

4 weeks is very fair. Some nannies give no notice. I try to give as much notice as possible.

[Anonymous]

4 weeks is more than generous. she's acting like a brat

[Anonymous]

Don't let her guilt trip you OP.

Four weeks is plenty of time to find herself a new nanny.

She is just lazy and doesn't want to put in the time and effort to do so.

She should be grateful to you that you gave her DOUBLE the amount of notice time that you were supposed to.

If she makes your job hellish, I would leave her ass.

[Anonymous]

4 is very fair.
- MB

[Anonymous]

MB here. 2 weeks is reasonable, unless your contract states you will give more, in which case it's reasonable to honor your contract. Which you're doing. So don't board the train for the guilt trip your MB is trying to send you on.

[Anonymous]

MB here and I agree w/ everyone else - 4 weeks is fair and considerate notice.

I'm sure she's a little panicked but that is not your fault or responsibility.