Good Grief MB!
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Anonymous
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I'm a live-in, and sometimes in the morning while MB is spending time with her daughter, I will make her and bring her a cup of coffee. I do this out of kindness, not because I am asked.
Yesterday MB asked if I can now make coffee for get new boyfriend, and serve it to him in bed!!! Innapropriate or am I over reacting? I said no, and she seemed shocked. I want to sit and talk to her about it, but I don't know how to make it come across as how rude this was... Advice please. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't as well. You aren't his servant. |
Anonymous
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I would state it just as you have here. Explain that you find it inappropriate to be bringing her bf coffee and that although you do it for her out of kindness, you are a nanny not her personal assistant. Explain that asking you to do that is pushing boundaries.
I would stop bringing her coffee. Make it and leave ready on the counter if you want to be nice. |
Anonymous
| I bet the boyfriend asked her to ask you. |
Anonymous
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Clearly you shouldn't need/be expected to do this.
One easy way out is to simply say that you're not comfortable serving her boyfriend in bed but if you happen to be making coffee you'll be happy to make enough for three. And then for quite I while I'd be certain not to "happen to be making coffee". How rude. (I'm an MB.) |
Anonymous
This. That's beyond ridiculous. It's unfortunate that people take an act of kindness into something to abuse. I'm an MB and wouldn't dream of being so rude. I know you made her coffee out of kindness, but you have to realize that the nature of people nowadays is to take advantage of kind acts. If I were you I'd ease out of making the coffee and other nice extras. I'd still do my job excellently, but leave out the extras that may be abused. Your MB is an ass. Sorry, OP! |
Anonymous
| Even if I was asked to make him coffee (even if he wasn't in bed), I would be very offended! |
Anonymous
| You should do it and also leave a decorative bowl of condoms next to the bed. |
Anonymous
| BTW, I don't believe this is true for a second |
Anonymous
Duh. I suppose that's certainly possible. I hate when I get sucked into a thread, respond, feel badly for the poster, etc... only to have it turn out to be a troll. |
Anonymous
| Why would you not believe its true ? Im a live in nanny and I get asked to do things on my time off or in the middle off the night. At 3 am on a Saturday morning a nice text saying 3 yr old peed the bed please come up and change/ wash sheets. I also have to hand wash my bosses underwear once a week. I think it's totally inappropriate but I do it because its my job. I do what they don't want to do. Grunt workers we are !! |
Anonymous
Now I REALLY believe OP is a troll. |
Anonymous
| The op did not write that . I'm another live in nanny . Sorry for the confusion |
Anonymous
| To the PP's that are calling the OP a troll, just thank your lucky stars your employers haven't asked you to do something inappropriate YET! You are in the huge minority. |
Anonymous
| Waaah waaah. If you really have to wash sheets at 3am and hand wash underwear, what stops you from quitting? |