Nanny drama
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Anonymous
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I work in a coldasac in which there are alot of nannies and sahm's. a few months ago while at the neighborhood park I met another nanny whose charge was the same age as my youngest charge... We started doing a few walks/play dates aweek but after about a month of this my older charge started getting bored because she wasn't getting much stimulation from the younger kids(both under 1).In addition to this after a while she wasn't very nice to my older charge.
The other nanny Isn't allowed to drive and only has child responsibilities. I do laundry, errands, child care, grocery shopping and dr. Apts. so I have alot going on some days on top of the fact I have to get the kids to an activity daily and she cannot take her charge anywhere. We haven't been spending tons of time together lately because of the families needs/how she treats the older charge. Fast forward to yesterday we are playing across the street with a sahm ad her kids when the other nanny (she didn't see me) came up to our door and POUNDED angrily on it and when we (obviously) didn't answer, she left. Today I get a text accusing me of being a bad person and more or less how we are suppose to hang out all the time with our charges together.. I'm sorry... What? I'm here to do a job...is this seriously how adult women act (she is 40, I'm 21). I'm astounded and I don't know if I should mention this to my boss as I wouldn't want the nanny (who is apparently nuts) to try and create problems between mb/db and I but I also don't want to put it out there if it doesn't need to be... What would you do nannies, what would you expect mb's |
Anonymous
| Ignore nonsense. She'll find someone else who will engage with her. |
Anonymous
| Talk to your boss and mention your discomfort. I would want to know. |
Anonymous
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I'm an MB. I would want you to tell me so I hear it from you and not some neighbor. Also, I would absolutely agree with the choices you've made, and want to support you in that. It might be that your MB knows the other MB and can help settle things down.
But all you really need to say is that your older charge needs playmates his/her age, there's nothing personal in it. You don't have to say you're doing this because "she's nuts" - let her demonstrate that w/ her own crazy actions. But tell your MB - it will build trust between you. |
Anonymous
| FYI OP: Just because people age out of childhood doesn't mean they are mature and rational adults. I am 36 and still disappointed to discover this in some people. |
Anonymous
Ha! So true (sadly). |
Anonymous
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This posting was a little over the map, but I will try my best to offer some advice for you.
I agree, she sounds like a lunatic. I would just cut off all ties from her completely. Since you most likely will be seeing her around the neighborhood, you can just say "Hello" and be polite, but I wouldn't spend any more social time w/her. The fact that she wasn't being very nice to your older charge was a red flag that this lady wasn't very nice. Yes, you should let your bosses know that this woman is not playing w/a full deck. I also would warn some of the other nannies in the neighborhood as well as the SAHM's as well. People need to be on guard about this nutcase. |
Anonymous
| Yes, tell your employers. Don't be emotional, and be fair when you tell them. But they should know if you are concerned about something. Best wishes. |
Anonymous
| Don't warn the whole neighborhood. But mention it to MB. "X and Y and I used to go on walks with another nanny in the neighborhood, but her charges just didn't seem to be a good fit for Y, so it kind of tapered off. She contacted me yesterday and was very angry that we haven't gotten together. I felt that her level of upset was very disproportionate to what she perceived as an offense and I will be steering clear of her from now on, I wanted you to know." |
Anonymous
Very well said. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry but this is bothering me. Its "cul de sac". Sorry! I'm not usually the spelling police but that one hurt my eyes. |
Anonymous
cul-de-sac? |
Anonymous
lol, I was thinking the same thing!! OP do talk to your bosses first, just explain what happened in a factual way. Better to head it off at the pass than for them to hear a watered down version through the grapevine. |
Anonymous
| Op here: great advice, thank you everyone! I struggled with the cul de sac spelling as you can see haha. Thank you for the correction |