Showing up too early

[Anonymous]

My PT nanny will often arrive up to an hour early (she only lives about 10 minutes away). She used to call my cell 30-60 minutes early while sitting in her car outside the house and I would ignore it. Now she just rings the doorbell and sometimes we're not even up yet when she arrives. It's a PITA for her to arrive when I'm not ready for her. How do I tell her this is not okay?

[Anonymous]

Tell a "window" for her arrival. Follow-up in writing. Is English her first or second language?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell a "window" for her arrival. Follow-up in writing. Is English her first or second language?

First language
She drops her kids off at school and is ready to get started, even though that's not the time we agreed on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell a "window" for her arrival. Follow-up in writing. Is English her first or second language?

Ok. I'd do this. If she still is hard of hearing (and reading!), when you answer the door ask her to come back at whatever time you agreed on.

[Anonymous]

Totally unacceptable. If she's supposed to show up at 7:30 tell her she can show up between 7:25 and 7:30 and not a minute beforehand. If she shows up earlier tell her you'll need to find someone else who can follow instructions.

[Anonymous]

I routinely arrive 10-15 min early for work to give the kids a buffer zone before their parents leave (I've found it cuts down on the drama), but 30-60 min is crazy. I'd try it a little more gently than PP's suggested: "Karen, we so appreciate how reliable and ready to go you are in the mornings but I'm just not ready to have anyone else here until 7:45. If you get here before that I'll have to ask you to wait in your car. Thanks for understanding!"

If that doesn't work I don't know what to say - if she can't follow basic guidelines do you really want to employ her?

[Anonymous]

Is she OCD in other ways to, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she OCD in other ways to, OP?

What OP describes isn't OCD, it's her nanny not listening and doing what she wants.

[Anonymous]

How do you tell her? Straight up. 10 - 15 minutes ahead is plenty of time to get set for the day. If even that is too much then make sure she knows that. If she continues to ignore instructions let her go.

[Anonymous]

I used to arrive 10 mins early so I could put away my lunch & wash hand etc, but then MB would just hand the baby over right away. It was annoying. Now I arrive exactly on time and don't care if she has to wait around while I wash my hands etc. It's pathetic anyways how she waits st the door and can't wait to hand over the kids!!! Then she just leisurely gets ready for 2hrs in her room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to arrive 10 mins early so I could put away my lunch & wash hand etc, but then MB would just hand the baby over right away. It was annoying. Now I arrive exactly on time and don't care if she has to wait around while I wash my hands etc. It's pathetic anyways how she waits st the door and can't wait to hand over the kids!!! Then she just leisurely gets ready for 2hrs in her room.

How is that related to this thread?

[Anonymous]

Wow OP, when I read this, the first thing I thought was, "Your nanny must be a true moron!!"

I mean, it's common sense not to show up so early. And how inconsiderate of her to infringe upon your family like that.

I have a question for you OP.
What does she do for that extra hour she is there for?

Anyway, I would clearly let her know that she is not to arrive more than say 15 min. ahead of time. If she does, she can sit outside and read a book or listen to the radio. There are some good morning radio shows on locally.

These are simple instructions. Even a fifth grader could follow them.

If after making your wishes crystal clear, she still shows up early, you have no other option but to let her go.

Why would you want someone caring for your child who cannot follow simple common sense instructions??!!

Good luck OP. ~

[Anonymous]

You can give her a concrete time when it's okay to come. Don't answer the door before then. I like to be early for work. But even I agree a half-hour is extreme, let alone an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP, when I read this, the first thing I thought was, "Your nanny must be a true moron!!"

I mean, it's common sense not to show up so early. And how inconsiderate of her to infringe upon your family like that.

I have a question for you OP.
What does she do for that extra hour she is there for?

Anyway, I would clearly let her know that she is not to arrive more than say 15 min. ahead of time. If she does, she can sit outside and read a book or listen to the radio. There are some good morning radio shows on locally.

These are simple instructions. Even a fifth grader could follow them.

If after making your wishes crystal clear, she still shows up early, you have no other option but to let her go.

Why would you want someone caring for your child who cannot follow simple common sense instructions??!!

Good luck OP. ~

+1 why are you people hiring these idiots?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP, when I read this, the first thing I thought was, "Your nanny must be a true moron!!"

I mean, it's common sense not to show up so early. And how inconsiderate of her to infringe upon your family like that.

I have a question for you OP.
What does she do for that extra hour she is there for?

Anyway, I would clearly let her know that she is not to arrive more than say 15 min. ahead of time. If she does, she can sit outside and read a book or listen to the radio. There are some good morning radio shows on locally.

These are simple instructions. Even a fifth grader could follow them.

If after making your wishes crystal clear, she still shows up early, you have no other option but to let her go.

Why would you want someone caring for your child who cannot follow simple common sense instructions??!!

Good luck OP. ~

+1 why are you people hiring these idiots?

Because it's dumb and dumber, duh.