Idk what to do in this situation. Advice please?
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Anonymous
| So, dh is interviewing for a new job. At this point it looks like he'll get it. If he does, I will be quitting my job to stay home with my kids. The job requires dh to be gone for 2 weeks of every month and without dh to help, my kids would have to do before and after school care, totalling 11 hours a day in school, and I'm just not ok with that. The problem I have is that mb and db want a 4 week notice, which I would be unable to give. I really love this family and I don't want to leave them hanging but ultimately I have to do what is best for my own family. Should I give tell them about the possibility of me giving notice? That seems silly to me, though. Should I just give the 2 week notice and leave it at that? Should I just suck it up and give 4 weeks? I really don't want to do that because I don't want my kids to deal with dh being gone and them having to be in school for such long days all at the same time. Also, when is the best time to give notice? i was thinking a friday evening. Should I talk to them both at the same time or is it ok to just meet with one of them? Any advice is greatly appreciated. |
Anonymous
| Two weeks of notice is fine, and Friday evening is fine. It's also fine to give notice to just one parent. |
Anonymous
Good advice. GL, OP. |
Anonymous
| I'm an MB. Don't tell them before your DH gets the job and everything is settled. As soon as he gets the job offer and has a start date set (and at least two weeks before your last day), tell either your MB or DB (whoever you speak with most frequently about your job) and tell them exactly what you said here. If they are reasonable employers, they will understand and will appreciate your being upfront. Even if they are reasonable employers, they will probably be a bit irritated. Not as much at you as at the situation - they will immediately focus their energy on trying to find your replacement in the relatively quick period of two weeks. So do your best to close out your time with them being as helpful as you can and all should work out well. Good luck to you on your new adventure! |
Anonymous
| The advice of 9:29 assumes a certain level of earned trust, which unfortunately doesn't always exist. |
Anonymous
| First, a 2 week notice will have to suffice, but there are some additional options with that. If you have a car that will hold all the children, you could give a 2 weeks notice and offer to continue care for an additional 2 weeks if necessary, while including your children for those last weeks. Also, if both of your children are in school, you could offer to stay past your 2 week notice for shorter days in order to care for your children after school. |
Anonymous
| Is there any way a family member could come help with the first two week of DH's job? |
Anonymous
Unfortunately, no. |
Anonymous
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Even though your current family prefers a "four week" notice, it just isn't realistic to expect that in the real world.
Just give them the standard two week notice and if they get angry, screw them. Like...What will they do? Sue you in a court of law? |