Has anyone had an AP that extended with a different family?

[Anonymous]

We did not ask our AP to extend with us and she told us recently that she is planning to extend and wants to stay in the area. Can anyone let me know what to expect? Will I speak with other host parents, have to write a reference letter? Anything else I should expect?

[Anonymous]

I don't think youll have to write refrences. The agency does all that.

[Anonymous]

Many families will want to know why you didn't ask her to extend. It may be hard for her to find another family. On the flip side, they will be able to meet her in person so that may help (or maybe not).

Also, a family may not be thrilled with the idea that it will not be an option for the AP to stay a second year if things work out.

[Anonymous]

Depending on the agency, you may need to give a reference. We had an AP who extended with my sister (oh my gosh, why did I let her go?) and I remember having to do this. Then again, that was seven years ago, so it may be different. But certainly a family will want to know why she didn't extend with you, but on the other hand, she may just say she didn't want to, and they could leave it at that. One of our best APs was an extension from another family, and I was thrilled that she didn't extend with them. Her only flaw was that she couldn't then extend a third year with us!

[Anonymous]

For those that had an AP that extended in the same area or who took an extension AP that stayed in the area, did you see each other? Have play dates with the kids and your new AP? Were your former snd current APs friends? I'd love any and all details on situations related to an AP extending in the same area.

[Anonymous]

Depending on the agency and the situation, AP may be required to find a HF in a new cluster.

I think APC and CC don't allow rematch APs to stay in the same cluster as their original family in order to avoid conflicts with the new incoming AP (no need to poison the well)

If you are not rematching with your current AP and DON'T want her around your new AP and/or kids, speak to your LCC to ensure that they match her elsewhere. We have around 6 clusters in our town, so it's not like you're dooming her to failure by asking that she's not in your cluster.

Our two extending APs (didn't keep because one was mediocre, one was downright BAD) went to other cities. Neither one wanted to stay in the area we lived in at the time -one wanted DC and the other Cali. But in my last cluster, one extending AP went to another family in the cluster who's AP was going home after 2 years. The two APs had been good friends and the HF felt that they had a good sense of the extending AP so this gave them a chance to choose someone they already knew. So far, so good. However, extending APs HM was also kicked out of the program for abuses, unreported DUI and repeated AP complaints - so it's not like she will have a new AP in the cluster with old AP.

[Anonymous]

Thanks 8:35 - that's good information. That is one thing I'm worried about - we are parting on friendly terms, but I'd rather our new AP and our old AP not be friends. Not that I'm going to prevent it or anything, but is like our new one to start fresh since we weren't altogether pleased with the departing one. Appreciate the information.

[Anonymous]

This happend to us with our very first AP. She was wonderful but a terrible driver and we needed a driver. So we mutually agreed that she would extend with another family in VA (we are in MD). The family called for a reference and I gave a glowing one, she really was wonderful. There never was a problem with our new AP because the old was great and did not try to sabotage things. If you have a bad feeling then follow that and don't ignore it!