Have you ever taken your nanny on vacation with you just for fun?

[Anonymous]

We are going away for a long weekend in a few weeks and were thinking of asking the nanny to come along. Not at all as our nanny, but rather our friend. We would never leave her with the kids alone, and would pay for her to come, the truth is we just really enjoy her company and would like to have her with us for a special trip. It's totally up to her if she wants to go or not, but I'm just wondering if this is a usual offer or not.
Remember she will spend no time working it really should be relaxing for all of us. Our kids are 4 & 6 so old enough to do their own stuff, but still young enough to really enjoy the quality time with both us and nanny! FYI our nanny often comes over for unpaid dinners, out to events with us, because we enjoy her company and she clearly enjoys ours! So we do have a very close bond.

[Anonymous]

Okay lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay lol

I'm not seeing the humor here...I'm very serious

[Anonymous]

I think it'd be fine so long as its made clear that its completely optional and that she would be a guest. I took a trip like this with my MB once. She was going to a convention in Hawaii and knew that I'd always wanted to go there. It was wonderful and an experience I wouldn't have been able to afford at my age. She paid for everything and never asked me to do anything, but I was happy to take the baby out a couple of times.

[Anonymous]

I do this with my employers! I go on lots of vacations with the family and I'm not required to work. I'm a live in so we have more of a family bond as well. It's not inappropriate to ask!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. This is my employee. Crossing the line by inviting an employee on vacation as a friend is completely inappropriate.

[maril332]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. This is my employee. Crossing the line by inviting an employee on vacation as a friend is completely inappropriate.

oh jeez.

[Anonymous]

Wow!!!
I wish I found one family like yours!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Only you know your relationship with your nanny, and asking a bunch of idiots on DCUM is asking for bad advice.

It is unusual because most families will not want to take on the extra expense for somebody who is not working. If you choose to do so, there is nothing wrong with that, as long as when you ask, you do not make her feel obligated to come along.

[Anonymous]

I agree that you're not likely to get great advice here because this is a uniquely personal relationship you're describing.

We love our nanny and often include her in holiday events, dinner out, etc... but I know that she always feels a little "on duty" even when we're explicitly clear that we are inviting her as a guest - not to work in any way. I can't really imagine a scenario where it's possible to fully turn off the employer/employee dynamics.

But more power to you if this works for you and your nanny.

[Anonymous]

I go on vacations with my family all the time! In fact, I vacation with the family I used to work for just for fun too! We have become the best of friends, and I enjoy spending time with them. I think it is GREAT when you have such a great relationship with your nanny! Wouldnt you rather love your nanny and want to spend time with her than the opposite?