Should I move for a job?
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Anonymous
| I have the opportunity to move to Athens, Georgia for a new nanny job opportunity, but more than anything, what I find difficult is the idea of moving away to a city which has a very high unemployment rate. I currently live and work in DC, however my husband lives in Athens, GA. He is pursuing a PhD and working as a TA at UGA. I have moved once and didn't have any luck finding a job in GA. I was forced to move back to DC after 2 months of searching. There are just not many nanny jobs or other jobs for that matter. We also don't own a car so that's definitely an issue. This week I came to visit him and applied for a FT nanny position. The job sounds perfect. MB/DB are both working at the university and they live within walking distance to/from my husbands apartment. My job is DC has been working out well. I really don't know what to do. This is really scary for me because what if the job in Athens doesn't work out? I know in DC I could find another nanny position fast. My plan was to move back to Athens, GA by next August so I can finished my undergrad degree. It is a cheaper city and I *think* I want to move back. I'm just so confused. While I love my husband, I find it exciting to be in a big city, out there on my own. I left Indiana 3 years ago and headed to DC. I don't know if I should just stay put in DC and move back after a year. I know living in Athens would provide less commuting and *maybe *more happiness than living in DC. I just have very mixed feelings... |
Anonymous
| I don't understand how it could even be a question, since your husband lives there..... |
Anonymous
| You are married. Unless you think you'll marriage isn't going to last, move to GA. For me, I would never be happier living apart from my husband but that's just me. |
Anonymous
I have been away from him for 9 months and we were long distance for 1 year when we were bf/gf. I really, really want to save $$$$$ for undergrad. I know living in DC is only temporary. I plan to be here for another year. He is also a very poor PhD student. He can't save anything with his TA job and has to live off $100/month for food. |
Anonymous
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This should be titled should I move for my husband ?
You act like he's your boyfriend instead of your husband |
Anonymous
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It sounds like your mixed feelings are really about your husband and the life as a married woman. How old are you? There's no shame in realizing you married too young and going your separate ways.
Because, otherwise, this post sounds insane. People who don't have to don't live apart from spouses they love for years, especially for an hourly job in a very expensive city, and especially after they found a good job where the spouse is. |
Anonymous
| Wow. So selfish. Sounds like you don't care about your marriage!! |
Anonymous
| Atlanta is an hour away. If you don't get the job in Athens, live somewhere between Athens and Atlanta. In case you haven't heard, Atlanta is a pretty big city. |
Anonymous
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MB here. I spoke to my husband last night and we both decided it would be better for me to stay in DC until next fall. It's only one more year. I would be able to save enough to go back to college by next fall and I would have enough saved to just study and not work while I finish my undergrad degree. My husband will have 2 years to complete his PhD when I plan to move back and that will give me enough time to complete my degree. Atlanta is actually quite far from Athens. Finding a job in Atlanta would not really be an opition. The commute( 3-4 hours day) would be too much. My work days as a nanny are typically 9-10 hour days because the parents have to commute to/from their home so it's almost always a minmum 9 hours /day for most nanny positions. Also I don't think any family in Atlanta would want to employ a nanny who has to commute 1.5-2 hours each way to work.
Things would be really bad if I were to lose the nanny job in Athens, and I was left to find work because the job market is sluggish. I'm going to politely decline the job offer. I'd rather take my chances finding a new job in DC than walking a find line with no safety net in Georgia. I also wanted to mention we were both blind sided before moving to Athens from DC last summer. We thought his salary would be enough to cover our expenses and my school fees. We found out his salary package actually included tuition! So his salary is really $15,000 instead of $40,000. He had an assitantship for his masters and they presented the scholarship package in a different way. They didn't include tution. |
Anonymous
| Good luck with everything OP. |
Anonymous
| I think the PP's meant you could live/work in and/or near Atlanta. At least then you could see your husband on the weekends. |
Anonymous
| Your husband has a little lady-friend in GA. That's why he doesn't care if you stay in DC |
Anonymous
Yes. I'm the PP who pointed out that Atlanta is only an hour away. Op could live and work in Atlanta and see her husband on weekends. Alternatively, they could live in the middle, together, and commute as necessary. Frankly, it doesn't sound like OP is willing to make sacrifices or take risks for her relationship. No problem with that, but a rigid and uncompromising position doesn't bode well for the future. Life is full of risks and compromises. |
Anonymous
| Wouldn't it make more sense to establish ga residency for education purposes? Where ya gonna go, Udc? |
Anonymous
| OP here. I actually already have GA residency. |