Can MB and DB do this?

[Anonymous]

My vacation time was approved four months ago for me to go on vacation next week with my husband. I asked my employers a few times since then if it was definitely approved and they said yes (and I got it in writing), so we planned and paid for our trip.

Now they are telling me that they couldn't get the time off so I can't go. I have the approval in writing, so I don't think this is right.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to politely remind them how much advance notice you gave, and that they gave you approval.

Then go on vacation.

They can advertise for a babysitter to cover the days you are gone. There's a lot of people on care.com, etc., that will take fill-in gigs while looking for other jobs, etc., etc.

[Anonymous]

Take your vacation. I guess legally they can do that, though I'm not a lawyer so I don't know for sure, buy thru may be on the hook for your costs since you made financial decisions based on their word. I think technically it's a contract?

[Anonymous]

Is this the parent's first incident of dishonesty?

[Anonymous]

Only ONE of them needs to get the time off. Yes, they can be awful to you.

[Anonymous]

Take your vacation! Do not let these sleaze slimeballs get away witj this crap. Show them a COPY of document with their approval. Syart looking for a new job because they will probably let you go. Have a wonderful time!

[Anonymous]

You have it in writing, you've made your plans.

Remind them of how much notice you gave, tell them your plans are fixed and you'll be happy to give them the number of an on-call nanny agency for back-up care in the case one of them can't get the time off.

And polish up your resume before you go in case they want to be TOTAL jerks and fire you while you're away. With a stunt like this I wouldn't be surprised and you want to be looking out for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Fair or not, they'll replace you if you don't do things their way.

[Anonymous]

Go on your vacation and enjoy! I would not even think twice about it. If they end up being totally jerks and fire you, you are probably better off! You you done everything right on your end...

[Anonymous]

OP here, I am definitely going on my vacation. It's the only trip I take (and the only requested time I have asked for). If they decide to fire me, I can always find another position.

[Anonymous]

MB here - I wouldn't do this to our nanny in a million years!!! That's awful!

They had notice, and if they had the slightest idea that they might not be able to get the time off themselves they should have made alternative arrangements. Why can't they pay for a temp nanny for the week?

If it is not a disaster for you financially to be unemployed after your vacation, assuming they fire you for going, then just go and start looking for another job when you come back.

If you can't afford to be unemployed, try to explain to them why cancelling your vacation is a huge problem for you & yoru husband and that you felt you did everything possible to make it as easy as possible for them, i.e. plenty of notice. If they insist that you don't go or they will fire you, tell them they need to compensate you for any expenses incurred. And, start looking for another job right away, they don't sound like very nice people.

[Anonymous]

Keep us posted on the how they handle it, OP!

[Anonymous]

She can collect unemployment from these nightmare parents if they let her go.

[Anonymous]

Well, they can't force you to work. That is slavery.

If an employer tried to pull that with me, I would be inclined to quit weather they fired me or not. I would start looking right away. Are they such jerks in other ways?

[Anonymous]

OP, what happened?