Nanny dating
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Anonymous
| Not sure if this ever came up, but I'm a 27 year old nanny jumping back into the dating scene after a failed engagement. I've been a nanny for six years and the longer i stay in this career path the more I feel isolated and looked down upon. I have a large social network of friends but none that I would date. I'm finding it difficult to meet men since i'm not in school and have no co-workers. How do other single nannies date? |
Anonymous
| Online. |
Anonymous
+1000 It's really the best way to date. You meet people you really would not otherwise. |
Anonymous
| Yep online. |
Anonymous
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Online for me too! Like anywhere you have to weed out some, and others will be nice and just won't be for you, but there are great guys there too. I only use free sites, though, as the paid ones are known to hire people to make fake profiles and even send leading messages just to get their customers to renew their subscription.
(Actually, I was on a first date last week, sitting outside a bar, and all of a sudden my charge's little friend toddled up to the table! Haha, he'd been out to the bars with his parents late into the evening I guess. It helped me add a personal touch when he asked me about my job, that's for sure.) |
Anonymous
| I'm a New York nanny who would love a date!!! I've tried online dating, but I have a real sense that the guys look down on me because I'm a nanny. I'm Jewish, this use a Jewish online dating service. And the men on than that are even more snobby. They all looking for an ambitious career driven woman. I don't know what to do???? |
Anonymous
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OP here,
Online dating really creeped me out when I tried it for a week. A lot of weird or perverted responses. I tried the Tinder app for two days and ended talking to someone I went to HS with which was wicked awkward. I guess I'm more of a meet in person kind of girl. I have met guys in bars, some nice and normal, others not so much. I guess i'm discouraged by who I meet and if i find someone I like they tend to look down upon my career choice. Living in a city with highly successful and well educated individuals, can make it tough to fit in if your career isn't considered a "real" job. |
Anonymous
| What kind of guys are you interested in? If you're coming across men who look down on you for being a nanny, maybe you're going after the wrong type of guy. |
Anonymous
| I guess if you say I'm a nanny with confidence it will come across differently than I'd you say it like you're embarrassed or apologetic. |
Anonymous
| Oh my God. Story of my life. This job is very isolating and too many people look down on the job. I have been to college but been nannying for four years and when I say I'm a nanny, most people are like "oh Ok" especially meeting guys for the first time. Sometimes I wanna say geez are you see disappointed with what I'm doing. Lol. I will def try online dating!! |
Anonymous
Say you work in childcare |
Anonymous
| Oh man, things like this make me glad I date women (online dating all the way!). I have never been looked down upon for being a nanny. I guess we should all remember that if someone judges what you do off the bat, they are not someone you want to be with in the first place! |
Anonymous
| It takes a while to find a good one, whether it's online or in person. I met my husband online 4 years ago on okcupid and I'm so happy I have online dating a shot. Of course I went through my fair share of losers, creeps and pretentious guys but I found my needle in the haystack. Just give it some time. I put a code word in my profile for guys to put in the headline of their message and deleted all messages that didn't include the code word to weed out the guys without real intentions. Good luck op! |
Anonymous
I'd suggest giving online dating another shot OP. OKCupid is great because it's free and freaking everyone is on it. EVERYONE. I've met three long-term partners through online dating and at the beginning I got a ton of obnoxious, perverted responses as well. I learned how to tweak my pictures to discourage that, rework my profile to appeal to the men I actually wanted to meet, and to identify red flags that earn men an immediate "hide" or "block" so now that I'm dating again I have to say, I haven't had a single obnoxious interaction in months (but I have had lots of really fun dates!). As far as talking about nannying with men, I think you need to learn how to frame your job with confidence. The man I'm seeing now was a little skeptical when I first said I was a nanny, especially when he heard I left a professional field after several years, but when I mentioned that I have health insurance, paid vacation, annual bonuses, etc. he reacted with surprise and said, "Oh! So, it's actually a real job?" Then I got to explain how much fun I have, what great practice it is for having kids of my own, how much healthier I am having the chance to go outside every day and not bringing any work or stress home with me, and how fulfilling my relationships with the kids and parents are. If you can talk about your job with real joy and passion, worthwhile people can overlook their initial judgment. |
Anonymous
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Meetup.com is a great place to get to know other people who share your similar interests. I don't know if you are in DC, but there is Single Volunteers of DC. There are other chapters in other cities in the country as well.
I would never do online dating again. Way too many creeps out there. |