How long did it take for your infant and your nanny to bond?
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Anonymous
| My baby is 5 months. Today is the nanny's second day and I worked from home the first day (probably a bad idea from a bonding perspective, but necessary from a logistics and trust perspective) - nanny is already expressing concern about bonding. I say give it a few days, but I am wondering how your experience was... |
Anonymous
| It takes time. 1-2 weeks is usually my standard with new babies that are over 12 weeks. I'm with a family now and it took a few days for the baby to warm up to me. Every child is different but if your nanny is already expressing concern after the 2nd day, she doesn't sound very qualified to be working with infants, IMHO. |
Anonymous
| It's really bizarre that your nanny is expressing these concerns on day 2. Bonding with a new charge (that is not a newborn in a family you've been working for) is not instantaneous. It takes time to get used to each other. It's always taken at least a week or two if not much longer in a few cases. I don't understand how your nanny would think she and the baby would bond in a day-and-a-half. |
Anonymous
| Do you trust this nanny, OP? |
Anonymous
| Very strange for her to be concerned after day two. Does she have any infant experience at all? |
Anonymous
| Yes - she has a good deal of infant experience. I do not have any trust issues with her. I think the problem is three-fold - one, we are part of a nanny share and she started with the other family earlier so is already bonded with that baby. Two, my baby is going through a very rough and clingy patch. And, three, the nanny is rather frank and outspoken, which can lead an over-sensitive new mom like me to question everything. |
Anonymous
| I'd say a week? Though she forgot him over the weekend and so Monday was hard. |
Anonymous
It takes a couple of weeks. It's odd your nanny has commented on it but not reassured you that this is a normal settling-in period. They'll get there, though 
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Anonymous
| If you trust her I'd make a point of leaving the house for most of day. Try this for W, Th, F. Then re-evaluate. |
Anonymous
How old is the other child? |
Anonymous
| Make sure she is getting one on one time with just your child and listen to your gut! |