Nanny contract/Agreement

[Anonymous]

Nannies -- would anyone feel put off if presented with a nanny contract/agreement? We have entered into an agreement with a nanny to hire her and we really like her. We've put together an agreement that we think covers all of our bases -- hers and ours. For some reason though, I feel bad about giving it to her, like we are formalizing something that we both want to be more like a family arrangement. Am I crazy?

[Anonymous]

You're not crazy - you're just very inexperienced. A contract/agreement should be fundamental - it is important, helpful, clarifying for all parties, and very, very useful.

You are hiring an employee - not a family member. You absolutely should approach it professionally.

[Anonymous]

Contracts are essential, but be sure to tell her to let you know what parts she's unsure about. Also make sure she clearly understands the difference between having an end date (term) vs. at will. Most people seem not to get this, and that you should not try to include both.

[Anonymous]

I think most, if not all, professional nannies have agreements. It's absolutely essential to avoiding any confusion and clearifying duties, pay, vacation, any any other info.

[Anonymous]

My current family was the first family I signed a contract/agreement with. At first I was a bit caught off-guard just because in my area it's not really custom BUT it has been a great reference and because of the contract we have avoided many possibly awkward conversations. The contract has actually made our relationship better because the rules and guidelines are clear on both parts. Don't feel bad MB, it will be very beneficial.

[Anonymous]

OP I would never take a job without a contract and would be THRILLED if the contract came from my new employers rather than from me. Present your proposed contract as a starting off point and ask her to highlight anything she has questions or concerns about and to please add anything she'd like to discuss. She'll be really pleased that you've done this and are understanding the professional arrangement she has with you and your family.

PS. When my current MB sent me her proposed contract in that way, I sent her back mine which is about four times as long and covered far more (because I have experience with these things and she's a first-time nanny employer), so be prepared for that possibility!