appropriate dressing for sight seeing;say something?

[Anonymous]

I realize only american's dress is shorts and sneakers for sightseeing. And I also realize that young ladies just wear less clothes than I wear. But at what point do you say something? My AP left the house today in tight dress and shrug that is better for the nights of Georgetown than a day of sightseeing. But she was wearing flats. I guess it's her feet and more of her is covered vs her tank tops and daisy dukes. Do you say anything?

[Anonymous]

No. Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

Was she going out with you? If not I wouldn't say anything. If she was more covered than she would be in a tank and shorts, it sounds like the dress wasn't all that revealing. She's probably young and she will learn that she looks silly all dolled up to go sight seeing, or that its not practical and she would enjoy it more if she were dressed comfortably. Or she won't. But its her mistake to make as a young adult, just as I'm sure you made when you were young.

[Anonymous]

I can see saying something if she's wearing a tight dress and heels for taking care of your kids or maaaaybe if she's in a teeny bikini at the family pool. Again, maybe if she's got everything hanging out while hanging out in your living room. But beyond that, I'd say nope, none of your business.

[Anonymous]

OP, with whom was she going?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, with whom was she going?

Doesn't matter. If AP was off the clock, in no way is it OP's place to dictate what her AP, or anyone else for that matter, wears. Why does this even need to be stated?

[Anonymous]

I'm an American, and I stopped wearing shorts and sneakers for non-athletic events when I was 22. I think a skirt and flats or sandals are just as comfortable. It was a transition that happened gradually- I started wearing other clothes, then realized I didn't miss my shorts.

If I was your AP, I would really enjoy getting this feedback and having a discussion with you.

[Anonymous]

I'm a host mom and would also stay out of it unless you want to give her advice in context, rather than criticism. If she's going out with her friends or on her own, it's really up to her how she dresses unless you find it inappropriate in general for your kids to be exposed to (i.e., something very inappropriate for a child to see, but I can't imagine what that would be).

However, we have a good relationship with our au pair and could offer guidance like a mom would, in a general life-advice sort of way, but don't offer criticism and critique. Not sure if this is coming out right, but we could talk generally about cultural differences and give her advice. But I wouldn't make her feel uncomfortable in her own home about something like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an American, and I stopped wearing shorts and sneakers for non-athletic events when I was 22. I think a skirt and flats or sandals are just as comfortable. It was a transition that happened gradually- I started wearing other clothes, then realized I didn't miss my shorts.

If I was your AP, I would really enjoy getting this feedback and having a discussion with you.

Those types of shoes are NOT "just as comfortable" as sneakers. They provide less foot support, less arch support, less ankle support (if any at all). For someone with any sort of foot issue, there is no way.

[Anonymous]

How is what she chooses to wear sightseeing any of your effing business. Most Americans dress disgracefully in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an American, and I stopped wearing shorts and sneakers for non-athletic events when I was 22. I think a skirt and flats or sandals are just as comfortable. It was a transition that happened gradually- I started wearing other clothes, then realized I didn't miss my shorts.

If I was your AP, I would really enjoy getting this feedback and having a discussion with you.

Those types of shoes are NOT "just as comfortable" as sneakers. They provide less foot support, less arch support, less ankle support (if any at all). For someone with any sort of foot issue, there is no way.

Not the poster you are quoting, but I have weird lower leg issues. I can walk about 1/2 a mile in sneakers before either my feet, Achilles tendon, or knees are in pain. Yesterday I went on a 4 mile walk with my baby in a stroller and had no issues at all. I have tried countless numbers of sneakers and inserts and nothing works. I only wear sneakers to work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an American, and I stopped wearing shorts and sneakers for non-athletic events when I was 22. I think a skirt and flats or sandals are just as comfortable. It was a transition that happened gradually- I started wearing other clothes, then realized I didn't miss my shorts.

If I was your AP, I would really enjoy getting this feedback and having a discussion with you.

Those types of shoes are NOT "just as comfortable" as sneakers. They provide less foot support, less arch support, less ankle support (if any at all). For someone with any sort of foot issue, there is no way.

Not the poster you are quoting, but I have weird lower leg issues. I can walk about 1/2 a mile in sneakers before either my feet, Achilles tendon, or knees are in pain. Yesterday I went on a 4 mile walk with my baby in a stroller and had no issues at all. I have tried countless numbers of sneakers and inserts and nothing works. I only wear sneakers to work out.

See? And I have the exact opposite problem. If I walk a half mile in sandals or flip flops (and I'm not talking $1 flip flops from Old Navy, but the ones with better straps and arch support by Born) my ankles are killing me. But I can totally walk for 4 or 5 miles without any problem at all in sneakers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an American, and I stopped wearing shorts and sneakers for non-athletic events when I was 22. I think a skirt and flats or sandals are just as comfortable. It was a transition that happened gradually- I started wearing other clothes, then realized I didn't miss my shorts.

If I was your AP, I would really enjoy getting this feedback and having a discussion with you.

Those types of shoes are NOT "just as comfortable" as sneakers. They provide less foot support, less arch support, less ankle support (if any at all). For someone with any sort of foot issue, there is no way.

Not the poster you are quoting, but I have weird lower leg issues. I can walk about 1/2 a mile in sneakers before either my feet, Achilles tendon, or knees are in pain. Yesterday I went on a 4 mile walk with my baby in a stroller and had no issues at all. I have tried countless numbers of sneakers and inserts and nothing works. I only wear sneakers to work out.

See? And I have the exact opposite problem. If I walk a half mile in sandals or flip flops (and I'm not talking $1 flip flops from Old Navy, but the ones with better straps and arch support by Born) my ankles are killing me. But I can totally walk for 4 or 5 miles without any problem at all in sneakers.

NP too, I can't go any kind of distance in flats. Not only do I get terrible blisters but my knees are I'm agony. Sneakers are it for me, most of the time but especially when sight-seeing or walking.

[Anonymous]

In agony* not I'm

[Anonymous]

You must be a joy to be around, OP.