Do I tell MB/DB?

[Anonymous]

So my charge just walked for the first time! Woo hoo!
It was so exciting, but it breaks my heart to think that I was there to see it instead of them.
I know that it would hurt MB.
Should I tell them or just say that I think DC is about to walk?
I don't want to withhold information but I also want MB to experience that excitement.

Advice?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say anything. Unless they have a nanny cam,they'll mever suspect you saw it first. I think this is one of those situations where withholding information is for the best

[Anonymous]

Just stick with "I think it will happen soon!" It's what I did, and my MB was so excited when she told me about it. First steps are something I'd like to let the parents experience firsthand not hear about it from me.

[Anonymous]

Do NOT tell them. It will break their hearts. Always better to err on the side of caution with these types of things. Just tell them you think it will happen any day now.

[Anonymous]

I never tell; just "didn't" notice it.

I'd never take that experience away from the parents.

[Anonymous]

My boss told me.... If Dd starts walking with you please tell me she is getting REALLY close!! Please don't tell your mb

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just stick with "I think it will happen soon!" It's what I did, and my MB was so excited when she told me about it. First steps are something I'd like to let the parents experience firsthand not hear about it from me.

+1 don't tell them! Just say she's close.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Both of my kids walked for the nanny first. That's life. I'm not an extra sensitive person, but if I was and this would matter, I would reconsider my childcare. My DCs are in the hands of a wonderful "Second Mom" and I've had to accept that I will miss a lot of firsts. But, my salary and our family needs do not provide that I stay at home. It hurts, but I've adjusted to that. If it's that weird to you, I would keep quiet. But, if you have regular MBs/DBs- tell 'em. I was excited to hear about my DC's progress. Also, initially I was one of those parents who charted every single milestone and called every grandparent. Now, I don't even know what happened to that old calendar with everything written down and know the Gparents only humor you when they pretend to be blown away by the child's first fart. What's most important are those quality moments you experience when God gives you that time together.

[Anonymous]

Don't tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do NOT tell them. It will break their hearts. Always better to err on the side of caution with these types of things. Just tell them you think it will happen any day now.

+1

[Anonymous]

Why say anything at all?

[Anonymous]

MB here. I would want to be told. I'd be really furious if you didn't tell me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would want to be told. I'd be really furious if you didn't tell me.

You would never know the nanny didn't tell you. So...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would want to be told. I'd be really furious if you didn't tell me.

What an odd thing to say. You should let your nanny know how you feel because you are in the minority. Most nannies would not want to ruin that experience for MB/DB, so keeping quiet about it would not be an act of malice or secrecy but one of compassion. I was the PP who said I kept it to myself, and the look on my MBs face when she was telling me about her DDs first steps (first and only child) melted my heart. I was so happy to have given her that moment, and I don't regret my decision at all.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I would be sad if I missed it.