How to deal
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Anonymous
| Does anyone else ever feel hypersensitive to DB/men's actions or moods? MB/DB are Awesome to me for the most part, but it's also hard for me to gage what their thinking when their in 'bad mood' or when things are a little awkward. Anyone else feel the same? How do you deal? |
Anonymous
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Ignore it. They should be mature and keep their negative moods to themselves. It will get worse if you try to cater to it. Just do your job the best you can and allow the parents to manage their own behavior issues.
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Anonymous
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You know, sometimes my nanny is clearly having a bad day. She's more "grumpy," sounds tired when talking to the children, and lacks enthusiasm for activities. She's even, on occasions, been a little "short" with me.
I work from home, and there's no avoiding these kinds of observations, and I'm sure she's had them about me as well. Thankfully, she's always ignored it, and so do I. 95% of the time, she's lovely to have around, and the rest of the time she's human. I hope she's made the same calculation about me. |
Anonymous
| Op here: I think perhaps the pp's took it as I was angery: I'm not, I'm just aware my employment is soley based off if they like me or not.. |
Anonymous
If they are mostly awesome to you, they like you. Relax. They could be cranky for a zillion reasons that have nothing to do with you. I know the rational you knows this and a lot of us people pleasers have been guilty of overanalyzing a boss' moods and wondering if we're disappointing him/her in some way. Just try to shut down that line of thinking when you find yourself going there and trust that the parents are adult enough to address any issues with you if you are, in fact, the problem. From your post, it sounds like this is about DB (or his boss, or his headache, or his stock portfolio or tennis game) rather than about you. |
Anonymous
MB here. I've noticed that my nannies and housekeepers take correction from my DH much harder than from me. I think that is because they are around me much more and a negative comment from him (with the typical male direct delivery) seems harsher even though it is not meant to be. |
Anonymous
| Op here again; I meant DB/Mb in my first post but all of your responses were spot on any how! Thank you! I think I just need to remind myself what 20:24 said. |
Anonymous
I totally do this, and it drives my husband crazy! I'll say, for ex, "MB seemed upset/annoyed/whatever, I wonder if I did something to upset her...do you think she hates me??" Obviously, I ask that last part mostly facetiously, but my DH still teases me for overanalyzing and misattributing their bad moods to myself and/or something I did. I have to consciously remind myself that it is probably one of the million things they have going on in their lives that is making them cranky, and only a 5% chance it is me. 
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