Au Pair joining you for outings on her days off
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Anonymous
| When your au pair has a day off and wants to join your family for an activity. For example a water park or a fair. Do you pay for her? Buy her food and drinks when there? |
Anonymous
You should be inviting her on family outings and, yes, it is your treat. What do you mran, "pay her"? You pay her the same amount every week. |
Anonymous
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It's not necessarily that you invite your au pair to everything you do and that you pay for everything she does with you.
Obviously, if you require your au pair to work or if you expect her to help you with the kids at all (be honest with yourself on this), then you should pay for all expenses. Also, if you are all out somewhere and you are eating together, then you should pay for her food/drinks. You are not required to take them with you anywhere and you are not required to pay for off-duty activities. That said, there are variations on whether or not you actually do which will depend on the relationship you have with your au pair, how much money the activities cost, etc. The best thing to do is be totally upfront. Let's say you are going to a water park for the day. It would be lovely of you to pay for everything. Alternatively, it would be completely fine if you said "hey au pair, we're going to the water park for the day and we'd love for you to join us if you'd like to. We'll pay for your food and drink there, but if you'd like to come, we'll ask you to pay for your ticket. It costs $35 to get into the park. Let me know if you'd like to come. If not, you'll have the day off." And then she gets to decide. |
Anonymous
I think OP meant cover the cost of her getting into the places, nothing to do with weekly pay. What if OP cant afford to "treat" everytime but whould like the AP to join anyway? |
Anonymous
| Yes, if she's coming with us, I pay for as much as I can/she lets me - meals, admission, etc. If she doesn't have plans, I invite her to everything we do. |
Anonymous
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Yes, you pay for her.
Her pocket money is not enough to cover such outings and taking her on these day "trips" is part of welcoming her to your family and giving her a full experience. Obviously if it is financially impossible you do not have to invite her along for everything, but you should pay for her basics (admission, meals, drinks, locker for her purse, whatever) when she does come with you. If she wants something from the gift shop that's when she breaks out her own money. |
Anonymous
If Aupair goes to a waterpark with her purse then that's her responsibility and she should buy a locker herself. |
Anonymous
| Unless you go to an extremely expensive park and love eating lobster etc and are really cheap, you should pay for the ticket + food. |
Anonymous
| I think for things you choose to invite her to, you would pay for ticket and food, other than that she can pay. You don't have to invite her to everything, but it is part of the experience to take her places. Also keep in mind she makes very little money, so the expense of a day at the amusement park may be nothing to you but is significant money to her. |
Anonymous
| Yes. |
Anonymous
| yes, she's invited to all, and we cover the basics (entry, meals, transportation). But if she wants a particlur souvenir she can buy that herself. |