Nanny brought boyfriend over to birthday party without permission

[Anonymous]

I invited my nanny as a guest to our DD's birthday party, due to quantity I was not sure if she would be allowed to bring a guest. After figuring out logistics, due to space capacity I felt I could invite nanny, a friend of our nanny, who happens to sit for our DD on occasions. I mention to my nanny how inviting K would be a great idea, and if she can rely the message. I wrote a note to myself to get in contact with K, to invite her. She never did respond to an RSVP, so I texted her about the party. I didn't hear from her, I assumed she was not coming then. My nanny took it upon herself to not tell me until after the party that K's number had changed. I don't know if this was a slip up on her part, but she decided upon herself since K was not coming, her boyfriend could come instead. I have never met her boyfriend before, I don't know much about him! Since this was a small setting, I would have preferred she ask me before inviting someone, as capacity was limited. This is not the first time she has done this. Last time, our DD had a recital, I purchased tickets for people in advance, due to nanny bringing two guests, not one I had to go and try and purchase an extra ticket for the show. It was a pain, as the show was almost sold out. It was the principle of the matter that annoyed me, she didn't ask to invite an extra guest but yet expected me to give her a ticket for said individual. How and what should I say to her, so she understands that it is not ok to just invite people without asking me first? MB, wouldn't you be annoyed? Nannies, why do some of you do this?

[Anonymous]

Was party at your house?

[Anonymous]

Are you both passive aggressive by any chance? Seems like some communication practice is in order.

[Anonymous]

lmao thanks for my morning laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I invited my nanny as a guest to our DD's birthday party, due to quantity I was not sure if she would be allowed to bring a guest. After figuring out logistics, due to space capacity I felt I could invite nanny, a friend of our nanny, who happens to sit for our DD on occasions. I mention to my nanny how inviting K would be a great idea, and if she can rely the message. I wrote a note to myself to get in contact with K, to invite her. She never did respond to an RSVP, so I texted her about the party. I didn't hear from her, I assumed she was not coming then. My nanny took it upon herself to not tell me until after the party that K's number had changed. I don't know if this was a slip up on her part, but she decided upon herself since K was not coming, her boyfriend could come instead. I have never met her boyfriend before, I don't know much about him! Since this was a small setting, I would have preferred she ask me before inviting someone, as capacity was limited. This is not the first time she has done this. Last time, our DD had a recital, I purchased tickets for people in advance, due to nanny bringing two guests, not one I had to go and try and purchase an extra ticket for the show. It was a pain, as the show was almost sold out. It was the principle of the matter that annoyed me, she didn't ask to invite an extra guest but yet expected me to give her a ticket for said individual. How and what should I say to her, so she understands that it is not ok to just invite people without asking me first? MB, wouldn't you be annoyed? Nannies, [/b]why do some of you do this?[b]

Are you honestly asking us why would YOUR nanny do something like that, by saying the bolded? This is quite simple, and between you and your nanny. "Hey, we would appreciate if you don't invite anyone on your own accord to events that we invite you to, and please limit it to one guest unless we specify otherwise".

[Anonymous]

If she can't bring a date then you're not really treating her as a guest.

[Anonymous]

are you trolling?

[Anonymous]

Is your "nanny" the person who was posting about bringing her boyfriend to her charges party? If it is... She was under the impression that you invited him and still wanted her to work!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:are you trolling?

+1

If you're not a troll, talk to your own damn nanny. We don't know her or you or why either of you makes the choices you do. Geez.

[Anonymous]

This is a troll... She just stole half this post from something I posted a few days ago

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How and what should I say to her, so she understands that it is not ok to just invite people without asking me first?

Open your mouth and say "It is not okay to just invite people without asking me first." SIMPLE. It also sounds like you just don't like your nanny.

[Anonymous]

OP here: I'm not sure what other post you're referring to. My issue is that she has had the bad habit of inviting people twice now, to gatherings without asking my permission first. Due to capacity, I find it rude she decides it's OK to do this. I will talk to her, but I'm afraid she will take it personal.

[Anonymous]

When inviting her to an event, tell her then whether she can invite a guest. If she is limited to one guest, tell her so. You cannot stipulate whom she may invite. If you don't want the boyfriend there, tell her you are not able to accommodate a guest, only her.

[Anonymous]

I was invited to my charges birthday party and there is no way I would attend without my partner. My off time is important to me, and bc of our particular situation, weekends are the only times we have together. How would you feel if you were invited to a party and your husband was not allowed? Personally, I'd pass.

[Anonymous]

PP *charge's