My nanny coworker is so unreliable
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Anonymous
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My MB has four children, 1 of which has complex special needs and requires a FT aide. All children are homeschooled from 8-2:30 during the day by a hired teacher. I come in for relief from 2:30-5:30 Monday to Friday. The children are great however the aide is so incredibly unreliable. In the 6 weeks I have been with them she has missed three days because she was sick, two days because her cat went missing, and has left early 3-4 times (between 5 and 5:15). She'll leave early if the kids have calmed down or are busy with activities with me. She'll talk way too much, about personal issues like how much her rent is, how much money she makes (she'll gripe about how I make $15 and she makes $18.50), how much her student loans are, how her social services diploma has "gotten her nowhere", how her dad fixes her car for her (the list goes on). She'll criticize my school and degree, (i'm doing a bachelors of social work), and say her two year college diploma is equivalent to my four year degree. She will make up obvious lies about things that don't make sense. I have disclosed zero personal information and will politely say i'm busy or I can't talk right now when she starts to go off on a tangent. She'll disappear for 20 minute bathroom breaks, chat with the neighbours, take the kids to get the mail and take 15 minutes. Today when I came in she took a personal call for 20 minutes!
She raises her voice regularly with the kids. Will voice her emotions like "I am so frustrated with you right now". She acts like a bully haranguing the kids all the time and criticizing or patronizing them. She locked one of the children's stuffed bears in the closet "just because". I don't think MB is picking up on it, but to be honest I need more support. One kid bumped his head and was bawling for 10 minutes straight, my coworker was nowhere to be found and when she came up she said she was "looking for snacks for the kids in the basement." Should I just learn to deal with an unsupportive coworker or should I mention this to my MB? I tolerate her when I'm at work and will encourage suggestions such as "why don't we use positive reinforcement instead of always giving time outs?" to which she is not responsive. I kind of just needed to get this out, ugh. |
Anonymous
| Talk to MB. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Talk to MB. BTW, how does she know how much you earn and what you're going to school for, or that you're in school at all, if you're not disclosing any personal information? Perhaps you're disclosing more than you thought. |
Anonymous
Mb told her |
Anonymous
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I think every family is different, so her actions might be okay in some settings but not okay in your current placement. It sounds like she is young and doesn't know how to tell when she is not perceived well.
I'm a nanny for 4 in the afternoon and evenings. My MB stays at home and has 2 other regular nannies as well, so at times we are all around each other a great deal, but never the MB and the 3 of the nannies together. On 2 occasions I have inquired or casually mentioned about 1 nanny's practices because they greatly effect my job in the evenings (leaving without doing dishes or laundry, allowing kids to do things that I don't, etc). MB is usually receptive since she pays a great deal for this amount of childcare. I will say that for the most part, we nannies stick together, so my experience is much different than yours. We chat and talk about our personal lives. It's nice to have another adult to talk to when you are around kiddos all day. Maybe ease up on the personal chatter but hold her to a higher standard as far as the child care is concerned. |
Anonymous
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MB ended up giving letting her go today. Coworker emailed her at 8AM and said she couldn't come in due to an emergency. I noticed on her Facebook she said she was " so excited about going camping", so I forwarded it to MB and she was super pissed. She left me and MB in a total lurch as her kid needs 24/7 care and MB had to leave work.
I'm glad it's over now. |
Anonymous
What comes around goes around, though. I'm not sure i would've jumped on the opportunity of ratting out someone like that. Seems immature to me. |
Anonymous
+1 I have to say I agree.ll |
Anonymous
| I was tired of having to consistently over-extend myself at work due to her repeated absences. If she wants to blow off work to go camping, so be it. I think my MB deserves a reliable employee, I owe that much to her. |
Anonymous
| SN mom here. Great job OP! |
Anonymous
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OP, I would have exposed her lie, too. Kudos to you!
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Anonymous
| I think that was a crappy thing to do...what does it matter to you? You should just stay out of it |
Anonymous
| I would've done the same thing OP. It's not just the MB's schedule she was ruining, it was yours too. The nannies who have an issue with it are probably the ones who would act just as unreliably. |
Anonymous
| I would have done the same thing. The nannies who say what OP did was wrong, are probably the same ones who like to leave everyone else in a lurch too and expect people to just deal with it. |