Am I crazy? Or is this unacceptable?
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Anonymous
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Hi Everyone,
This is my first post on here. I often read threw old posts for advice on issues but can't seem to find one that addresses my problem... I am a full time nanny for a 6 month old baby. In order to be at my job by 5:30 am I wake up at 4:20 and reluctantly get ready and go. Atleast once a week sometimes up to four times a week I will arrive at work and there are no lights on and the door is still locked. I have to either text or call my boss to wake her up to let me in!! Then there have been several occasions including this morning where I get here and she unlocks the door and goes back upstairs and goes to sleep!! Not for a quick cat nap I'm talking for like 2 hours while I sit on the couch and wait for her to come down with the baby!! This drives me nuts! I know I am getting paid to do nothing but those 2 hours she's sleeping I would have loved to sleep in also or to be able to wake up with my own child! She is also a huge slob! That leaves food, bowls, cups, diapers, etc. laying around all weekend almost as though she's waiting for me to arrive on Monday to clean up after her.. If I wasn't so OCD I would let her live in her filth but I can't help but clean up her crap... End of rant! LOL This is my first full time nanny job so I'm trying to stick it out and let some things slide but it's getting to the point where I feel like I'm being taken advantage of... Any comments, questions, suggestions are appreciated! |
Anonymous
| Are there days where they are up and leaving soon after you arrive? That would be weird to me too. I know everyone says "they're paying so it doesn't matter if the parents are home or not" but as a nanny I have personal limits to that. I also can't see myself working for a family that wouldn't give me a key. |
Anonymous
| Take the pay and relax until they come back down also request a garage code or a key. |
Anonymous
| Ask for a key. Enjoy getting paid for free time. |
Anonymous
| Definitely request a key, but I would not be so quick to be ok with the "free time". If you are not working for the first 2 hours of your day, why are you there? I'd be miffed if I had to wake up that early for nothing too. Talk to MB about your start time-if you are not needed, you shouldn't be there. |
Anonymous
| OP: thanks everyone for ur replies. I guess part of my frustration comes from formerly being in the military. I am super punctual and always on time. When Im sitting on the couch doing nothing I feel like my time is being wasted paid or not.. I will def. ask for a key tho! |
Anonymous
| I'm glad I'm not the only one that had a situation like this!My boss used to tell me to be there for 6:15,but she didn't have to be at work until 8 or so and didn't wake up until 7:30! Kids weren't even awake when she left.. |
Anonymous
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Our nanny had a key, and we never left a mess, but for the first 6 months or so, we were often asleep when she got here!
Our daughter was an awful sleeper, and we were usually up most of the night. Having two extra hours in the morning where I knew that the nanny would take care of the baby if she woke up helped save my sanity! Most of the time, true, she was just down stairs having a cup of coffee and reading a magazine, but it made a tremendous difference psychologically for us. I work weird hours, so she just worked 4 10 hour days. I really hope she wasn't resenting the morning time. |
Anonymous
| Ask for a key. Take a nap on the couch. |
Anonymous
This was my thought, too. If mom is the only one getting up with the baby, and dad is gone that early in the morning, they may have hired you for the early shift to let her sleep even if the baby wakes up. Now that baby is 6 months, though, s/he may be settling into a more predictable pattern so that you're there with nothing to do most days. Can you raise the issue with MB? Say something like, "I know you hired me for x-o'clock to y-o'clock, but it seems like most days I'm just interrupting everybody's sleep. Would it make sense to shift my hours forward by an hour? WE could even try it for a couple of weeks and then talk again." |
Anonymous
| OP, are you sure you're not a troll? How do you get in and out all day without a house key? |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| OP, how long have you been with them and how old are you? |
Anonymous
| OP: I would totally understand if I was there to get the baby up so that she could cetch up on some sleep but that's not the case. The baby sleeps in her room and she eventually gets up with the baby when she wakes up. This is just a case of her sleeping in whenever she feels like it. When I was hired I was told to be at the house by 5:30 so she can leave by 6:00 it's just some days she chooses to sleep in and go to work late. All I want is a simple text the night before or the morning of saying that she wants a couple extra hours of sleep. I would gladly go back to sleep myself instead of driving to her house and sitting on the couch. |
Anonymous
| It sounds like the MB is just getting used to the schedule herself. It may be that she and the baby are up during the night and she may not know how late the baby is going to sleep until he wakes up. She is not going to know the night before when the baby will wake up-- and she probably doesn't want to wake up to text you that maybe the baby will sleep later. She probably has a flexible job where it is great to get into work early if baby is awake, but if baby sleeps later, she can too. Don't judge a new mom about getting as much sleep as she can-- just get a key and tidy up the kitchen. |