Find a new job

[Anonymous]

Can posters stop using "find a new job" as a response to every single situation/problem that gets brought up here? That may seem like the obvious response, but for most people, it is just not a viable option. Many nannies need to work and live pay check to pay check, jobs are (just like in every other industry out there) more and more scarce and hard to come by, and some people actually like to work issues out rather than quitting. Yes, this is mainly just a rant, but I had to put it out there, these boards are becoming increasingly frustrating to read the more people post responses like this.

[Anonymous]

I agree, but often that reply really means, "This is your job. Your choices are: 1) suck it up; 2) address it with your boss who may or may not change her/his mind; or 3) quit,"

Sometimes, the problems are so egregious that option 2 is clearly not an option. So, then the OP is left with "suck it up" or "quit."

As someone who has always been very conservative when it comes to work, I wish I had it in me to be a little more willing to quit a bad job. So, I do understand the advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can posters stop using "find a new job" as a response to every single situation/problem that gets brought up here? That may seem like the obvious response, but for most people, it is just not a viable option. Many nannies need to work and live pay check to pay check, jobs are (just like in every other industry out there) more and more scarce and hard to come by, and some people actually like to work issues out rather than quitting. Yes, this is mainly just a rant, but I had to put it out there, these boards are becoming increasingly frustrating to read the more people post responses like this.

+1 took the words right out my mouth

[Anonymous]

In the DCUM world, situations are always black and white. On this forum, they say quit. On the relationship forum, they say divorce That is why other than the occassional small issue, I wouldn't take most advice on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree, but often that reply really means, "This is your job. Your choices are: 1) suck it up; 2) address it with your boss who may or may not change her/his mind; or 3) quit,"

Sometimes, the problems are so egregious that option 2 is clearly not an option. So, then the OP is left with "suck it up" or "quit."

As someone who has always been very conservative when it comes to work, I wish I had it in me to be a little more willing to quit a bad job. So, I do understand the advice.

+1

You guys come on here and complain about things but don't talk to your employers about them, turn down every helpful piece of advice, and continue to insist there is nothing you can do. Well, fine. Then quit. Or suck it up and stop posting asking for people to miraculously solve this problem for you.

OR, post your thread but indicate that you just need to vent and aren't looking for advice. THAT is perfectly acceptable, but asking people for advice to solve issues ONLY YOU CAN SOLVE is obnoxious and warrants the only logical response: if you're so unhappy, find another job.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps the problem is that too many nannies rant and not enough post issues they are interested in working out. It's hard to give advice on a rant.

[Anonymous]

I agree OP.. I wrote a comment similar to your original post the other day. If I had a nickel for every time someone said quit, I'd be rolling in the dough.

[Anonymous]

How come none of these nannies have any savings and are always so bare bones with their money? Are they living above their means?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the DCUM world, situations are always black and white. On this forum, they say quit. On the relationship forum, they say divorce That is why other than the occassional small issue, I wouldn't take most advice on here.

+1 I was about to post the exact same thing. Over in the relationship forum, someone will say "My DH clears his throat too much" and people will jump all over it, saying he doesn't appreciate her and she should file for divorce. So silly.

[Anonymous]

And on the flip side, if everyone could stop seeing "FIRE HER!" as the only solution to MBs problems with their nannies, that'd be great too.

[Anonymous]

17:41 They are not living above their means. Most nannies cannot afford to quit and have no savings because they live paycheck to paycheck. Most of us make just enough to cover the bills and that's about it.

[Anonymous]

I have a new one for ya.. how about you stop reading if it bothers you so much. This stupid little rant of yours isn't going to make people stop while they're typing and said "you know what? I was going to tell this poster to quit and find a new job...but since people don't seem to like it I'm going to say something else!"

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that the nannies on this board don't understand the terms negotiate or compromise. Everything is an entitlement and there seems to be a complete lack of understanding that "work" means you are actually "working"..not sitting, napping, chatting on your phone, shopping, or staring at a wall. Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a new one for ya.. how about you stop reading if it bothers you so much. This stupid little rant of yours isn't going to make people stop while they're typing and said "you know what? I was going to tell this poster to quit and find a new job...but since people don't seem to like it I'm going to say something else!"

I have an idea, how about you stop being such a nasty individual.