Am I being entitled?!
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Live in Nanny here. A bit of background, I work M-F from 6am- 4pm. After those times I am off the clock unless Mb or Db have asked me to stay later or do a weekend. That was not the case this morning. There are 3 kids. A 7 month old, a 3 year old and a 5 year old.
My "nanny suite" is in the loft over the garage and it is not connected to the house. I have cleared it with my bosses that I am allowed to have people over, often my boyfriend. Last night I went out with friends and my BF and we came back here and he spent the night here. Since I knew I didn't have to work today I thought it wasn't a big deal. This morning at 7 am, MB is knocking loudly on the door to the loft. I answered and she says that they are going out and they need me to watch the kids all day. She knew I had plans. Anyway, she tells the two oldest to just sit on the couch and watch TV and hands me the baby who is still asleep. She told me not to put the baby in the playpen (i have in the loft), and instead to just put the baby in my bed "if you wanna go back to sleep". I was totally pissed that she wanted me and my boyfriend to sleep with her infant in the bed. For one, i think that's odd. And also, I think that co sleeping is dangerous. So long story short, I ended up forcing myself to get up then and just sitting on the couch with the kids until the baby woke up. Am I being entitled in thinking that she should have let me know beforehand. I feel like I should confront her, but I want to know if this is "entitled" first. |
Anonymous
| Bitchy mb. Unbelievable. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely unacceptable. Sounds like you're going to need to have a very uncomfortable conversation about respectful boundaries and I would encourage you to test the waters of other jobs as well, because this sounds like an MB who won't stop taking advantage of you wherever and whenever she can. |
Anonymous
| MBs behavior is really outrageous. I am sorry you had to put up with her taking advantage of you like that. |
Anonymous
| Does she pay you extra for weekend? If so charge her double for short notice and the inconvenience. |
nannydebsays
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Yeah, unless there was a horrific emergency that necessitated them dumping the kids on you and racing off, your MB has smashed all sorts of boundaries, and you need to have a talk with her and your DB.
However, there is some info that might help you get the best possible advice: How long have you worked at your current job? Has this ever happened before? If so, how often? Do you have overtime pay in your contract? Does the family have a list of sitters they use when you are not available? |
Anonymous
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Nooo this is not entitled. This is just plain rude.
She can't just knock on your door and hand over kids. This is probably why she wanted a live-in, so she can walts on in your living quaters and hand over kids. If this was a liveout situation you could easily not pick up or tell her you can't because (insert excuse). I would definitely bring it up if you're comfortable enough doing it. I say this because alot of parents have control issues and will get bent out of shape if their nanny brings up any issues. Entitled nannies are nannies who expect most, if not all, benefits and perks but wont go above and beyond and do the bare minimum. Your MB is the entitled one. She thinks its ok to throw her kids at you at any given hour on any given day. |
Anonymous
| The woman doesn't deserve a decent nanny. |
Anonymous
| Next time hand the kids back tell her it is your weekend off and if she wants you on weekends she has to book you a week in advance and pay your overtime. |
Anonymous
| So she would be okay with you falling back asleep, with baby (and boyfriend) in your bed, with the kids (ages 3-5) watching TV by themselves, in a different part of the house?! That is nuts! What if the kids got into some type of trouble and you were asleep and couldn't even hear them? |
Anonymous
| OP, if I were you, I'd be onto my next job asap. |
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Yes, this is what she does when I'm not here (off duty). Also, the loft is set up like a studio apt, so the tv and couch is only about 12 feet from the bed, so I guess she assumed they would be okay. But yeah, she does leave them in random parts of the house and sleeps in. |
Anonymous
They have a few sitters/nannies they use at times like weekends and when I take my vaca/PTO days or have an appt or something like that. This hasn't really happened before. Once (a month ago_ MB said "can you stay on till midnight?" at the time they were supposed to be home on a Friday. It was okay then, because I had no plans. That time in particular the kids and I just stayed in my area and they slept on the pull couch and baby in the playpen. So technically I had them till about 8 am (including getting up with the baby in middle of the night) So this morning, I made BF leave as I had to get up with the kids and I thought it was a little inappropriate for them to see a shirtless guy in my bed. Also, as I type... MB and DB have not returned. |
Anonymous
| I feel really bad for you OP! Did she say at all where they were going/what the plans were the for day? |
Anonymous
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She said they were going out for breakfast and to spend time with some friends. So to me this sounds like something that has been planned for a while.
And to the PP that asked, yes outside of 40 hrs I get OT. And I probably should look for a new job but I have been here since the second was born. In fact the second eldest and the infant both spent the first 4 months of life sleeping in the loft and seeing me get up with them through the night. MB now gets up with the baby at night. But sometimes the 5 year old wanders to the loft (which I worry about since she is somehow able to get out of the house!) at night to tell me she wet the bed, or that she's scared in her room. |