Ap's new friend...

[Anonymous]

This is our first ap, we have always have live out nannies until this year so this is a whole new ball game to us..

Here goes: we have a decent ap, good with the kids, pretty friendly and usually cleans up after herself. No problems until this. Since we've never had live ins who our nannies/ap associate with has been no issue.

When our ap moved in we tried our hardest to help her socialize a d make friends. Encouraged her to get our and see the city, she recently made a friend and we were thrilled! Suddenly she was out whenever she wasn't working, coming home later and later... We thought she may have had a boyfriend until she introduced us to her new fiend who is also an AP. After talking with ap and her friend, her friend quickly told us she was employed by a family down the street... We have had issues with this family in the past concerning the husband and had ceased all contact with them because of those issues. I don't want to tell ap who she can be friends with but I am certain nothing good can come from our Ap's being friends.

Help!

[Anonymous]

What are you concerned about specifically? It doesn't necessarily mean that the AP is going to cause the same trouble that the husband caused you. Why are you so certain that "nothing good can come" of this friendship?

[Anonymous]

I don't see why your AP and the other AP can't be friends. The problems you have with that family has nothing to do with the AP, correct?

I'm sure the other family isn't going to sit their and talk badly about you and brainwash your AP. Just let it go or else you'll look controlling trying to tell AP to avoid people just because you've had issues in the past.

[Anonymous]

I get you don't want any unpleasantness, but if all is okay right now, I would not mention anything.

[Anonymous]

Why is this your business? Do you own the AP or is she a free person?

[Anonymous]

What goes around, comes around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get you don't want any unpleasantness, but if all is okay right now, I would not mention anything.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this your business? Do you own the AP or is she a free person?

Are you that blonde AP from Eastern Europe who's neglecting her charges? Why such attitude? This is exactly why AP programs are starting to have financial troubles. They're bringing people with attitudes over. Hope you aren't caring for any kids.

[Anonymous]

I get what youre saying. I wouldnt like it either. Im sure that family has nothing nice to say about you which will get back to your AP and will affect the way she respects you and her performance as an AP. Once the poison sinks in there is nothing you can do. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this your business? Do you own the AP or is she a free person?

Are you that blonde AP from Eastern Europe who's neglecting her charges? Why such attitude? This is exactly why AP programs are starting to have financial troubles. They're bringing people with attitudes over. Hope you aren't caring for any kids.

There is also the "ap are property of host family, basically indentured servant a.d you obey host mom because she is your master." I would imagine word of mouth among former APs to prospective APs is one of the reasons the program is having financial problems. Attitude goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't try to interfere with the friendship, but I would be up front with your AP about the difficulties you've had with the family in the past, so that she will hopefully take any stories heard about you from them with a grain of salt. You should probably also make it clear to her whether your comfortable with all the kids playing together (I'm assuming you won't be), so that she's clear on this expectation.