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Anonymous
| Does anyone else have issues with your bosses friends/neighbors assuming that it's okay to drop their kids off to you whenever something comes up? A friend of my bosses always has something come up (many times a month) where she thinks it's okay to have me keep her kid. She used to ask me and I would tell her that we were busy, now she asks my boss to tell me and my boss just tells me that friend needs me. In the past three months, this has happened at least five times - she has yet to pay me although she says she will. I am not sure how to approach this but last time I checked, I didn't apply to be her babysitter so I wish she would stop assuming I am. I am ticked at the friend and my boss because this is way out of my job description and I don't like being walked all over. |
Anonymous
| Tell her you are happy to watch little Jessica but you need additional compensation. Simple as that. I know it's hard to approach, but if she doesn't understand, make it clear to your MB that you don't offer free babysitting while working your full-time job. If MB doesn't support you, you are SOL. |
Anonymous
| I am intending to tell her that I don't mind doing this for her "today" but I am annoyed that she yet to pay me from the other times. I also want to tell her that I would appreciate her asking me instead of my boss because I am an adult and I can make my own choices. I'm worried about making friend mad and then in turn making MB mad but I realize that I need to put my foot down. This is beyond rude. |
Anonymous
| Tell your mb you are happy to watch the child but the mutter hasn't paid you. Mb won't be upset with you. I would probably go that route instead of taking to the friend |
Anonymous
| Mother not mutter |
Anonymous
| Doormat nanny. |
Anonymous
OR just a nice person who did a favor one too many times and is now being taken advantage of. Helpful comment though.... |
Anonymous
I'm not really sure here. You are getting paid to work certain hours, so you are not doing any "favors". |
Anonymous
| I agree with the poster who says tell your MB that the friend hasn't paid you and is not consulting you first. I'm an MB and I'd be ticked at my "friend" for not paying and overworking my child's nanny. If your MB values you and you have a good relationship, she will not want her friend to run you off by taking advantage. |
Anonymous
Sure. What all do you cram into your work hours? And you get paid what? |
Anonymous
+1 Tell your boss you don't mind watching Jessica, but as you have yet to be paid for any of your previous service you're not going to be able to until you've been compensated - and that you'll require at least some advance notice and IMMEDIATE payment when they're going to need you in the future. |
Anonymous
Wtf. Are you serious? So basically it'd be okay for my boss to ask whatever they like of me during my work day so long as time allows? You pay your nanny to do a job, yes during certain hours, but you can't just have her do whatever please you during that time. If I'm finished with my work for the day and your husband is feeling randy, should I take care of that as well? |
Anonymous
No response, of course. |
Anonymous
| Whether you deal with the Mb or get friend is up to you. I'd probably talk to the friend directly then send them both an email detailing what we had discussed and how the other kid impacts your day. I'd also request advance notice of at least a week and give her an invoice. I'd sari something like "I know you said you would pay me but though maybe you hadn't tracked the his, so here are three hours I worked for you. I prefer cash, but a check is ok too. Thanks." |
Anonymous
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I think it depends on your overall situation. If you take your charge out on outings where you are meeting up with other nannies then I would suck it up as 5 times in 3 months isn't that much. If the other child is a playmate of your charge and both families do things for each other (regardless of whether this benefits you directly) then it could be construed as part of your job.
If the other charge is not a playmate in anyway for your charge then you should bring something up to your MB. |