Nannies ever gone from a non-primary care role, to becoming a primary care role for your charge

[Anonymous]

I really enjoy my job right now with a little one. MB works PT and she has been lenient in things we do. I'm allowed to take my charge everywhere. We do crafts. I fix lunch -all without MB hovering or micromanaging and it's great! She does take pride in being a mother and therefore, I am not the first hand in his decisions. Any nap changes or whatever, MB says so. It's not like the handoff parents who let their nanny potty train hen nanny feels its time etc. I don't min this for now but eventually I would love to work for a family who lets me have more primary role in their child's life. I met this nanny a few weeks ago, whom I thought was the charge's mother. Turns out, he is witht he child majority of time, and makes important decisions for child as parents gave her permission. They travel a lot, so the child will probably have nannies forever. I think I would enjoy having a more primary role like that. Anyone ever go from working from a job where you're not with child majority of time, to being with them most of the time? How did it go? I am FT even though MB works PT as I'm salaried and when she's not working, she has appointments. But she's very involved with raising her child.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you are in a good training position. It takes time to learn the needs of a child. How old is your charge?

[Anonymous]

I am a 24hr nanny Monday-Friday, and when I hand off to the 24hr nanny I get to tell her what to do. It is a very big responsibility being the ONE who raises the child. The bond is great, and it is amazing watching the LO grow up so well, and know you are 97% responsible for it. But if the child isn't doing so well, then that's all on you!
It's weird to tell your boss's how to talk and play with their own kid. And in order to be a great nanny, and make sure you are doing a great job you need to non stop research how to raise this this child. It is something you can't eff up- a huge responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 24hr nanny Monday-Friday, and when I hand off to the 24hr nanny I get to tell her what to do. It is a very big responsibility being the ONE who raises the child. The bond is great, and it is amazing watching the LO grow up so well, and know you are 97% responsible for it. But if the child isn't doing so well, then that's all on you!
It's weird to tell your boss's how to talk and play with their own kid. And in order to be a great nanny, and make sure you are doing a great job you need to non stop research how to raise this this child. It is something you can't eff up- a huge responsibility.

So even though you didn't give birth to your child, you really are the parent. I know it's not pretty to say that, but it's the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you are in a good training position. It takes time to learn the needs of a child. How old is your charge?

Not that long. We took a class on newborns and did fine with the first. Believe me, you learn very quickly the needs of a child.

[Anonymous]

My last position was like that, i was the child's primary and made all major developmental decisions. It was great at first until you started to regard the actual parents as incapable babysitters and worried about the child while in the care of their parents. The parents were clueless and didn't care because they paid me to do all the hard work.

I personally say don't waste your time in positions like that, they are not your children and one day you will leave. you will end up disappointed when you realize all the effort you put into raising a respectful, smart child is sabotaged by his parents. Save your energy for when your a mother.