Giving Notice
![[Post New]](/nanny-forum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| I have been at my current position for nearly a year (2-infant share) and though it hasn't been horrible, there have been a lot of small grating things that are simply a result of mismatched personalities and expectations. Something happened recently that told me loud and clear that it was time to move on. I was offered a new position almost immediately and now my question is, how do I go about giving notice? I've never had to do this before, as I've always stayed on until no longer needed and we have part amicably. I think it may come as a bit of a shock to my employers as I have done my best to handle all of our issues as gracefully as possible and the extent of my dissatisfaction is likely not known. So ladies who have been there, how do you even bring this up, md what words do you use? I'd really like to be able to maintain contact with the babies, and for things to not end too sourly but I recognize its a possibility. I intend to give 3 weeks notice, and I am financially prepared to be fired on the spot. Any advice is welcome. Thanks! |
Anonymous
| I gave a 2 week notice at my last job (been there since babies were born, left at 15mos). Anyway, I met MB after work and just told her, no beating around the bush. She started crying which made me start crying but I kept the talk moving forward. I told her why I was leaving, when I was leaving and that I hoped I could still be their on call sitter. It was VERY awkward those 2 weeks and for about a month after. Then I sat for them at night and things were completely back to normal. I see the babies about once a month or so. |
Anonymous
|
Be careful about what reason you give them. To keep the peace, I always try to make about something that has nothing to do with them.
Three weeks notice is generous of you. Hope they all appreciate all the work you did for them. |
Anonymous
| *make it |
Anonymous
Could you please give some examples of good reasons? |
Anonymous
|
I don't believe in giving reasons, because then people will argue why those reasons aren't valid.
OP, I first suggest that you get a reference letter from them. THEN give notice, saying, "I've decided to move on to another position, so my last day with you will be May 5, 2013. It has been lovely spending time with Larla and Aidan, and hope that we can stay in touch occasionally." |
Anonymous
| You don't need to give a reason. You give them at least two weeks notice and say you are moving onto a better opportunity for yourself. That's all. |
Anonymous
Two weeks, no more. Get on with new job and do not look back. |
Anonymous
|
Well, are you leaving to work for one family? If so you could just say that you love their children but you've decided that you'd like to be able to work for just one family and think it will probably be a better fit for you at this stage in your career.
I think your planned notice is very appropriate and considerate. And if you want to stay in touch or be available to them as a sitter that says a lot about the way you're approaching this. It's always fair to see "It isn't anything you did, a shared position just isn't the best fit for me right now but I hope we can stay in touch." You can also offer to help them out in any way possible for the next three weeks (if they need some time without you but with the kids to interview new nannies for instance, or if you could help by documenting for your replacement what the daily schedule is, tips re the kids' likes/dislikes, things that help manage the day, etc...) Good luck. It sounds like you're handling this very professionally. I hope they respond in kind. |
Anonymous
|
OP here. Thanks everyone for the replies so far! I am actually leaving for a pretty similar arrangement, but its just all around a better fit. Better pay, PTO, commute, hours, and click with the parents.
I intend to go into our conversation with a plan to help find a replacement, and have typed up a detailed daily routine and tips regarding the babies. I'd like to avoid giving a reason, but if they press I plan on going with the "different hours, shorter commute" reason. Thanks everyone! I'm still quite nervous, but your comments have assured me that I am being reasonable. |
Anonymous
|
Some parents they don't want to pay the whole notice . they want to make the nanny in trouble .They put a moniter and camera to not pay the whole notice.They have nice nanny ,but some boss are very bad.Thank You!
|
Anonymous
| PP, you make absolutely no sense. |
Anonymous
OP, that sounds like a good plan. I was going to suggest the same thing, that if you ended up giving reasons why, to say for the better commute and more hours. Even if they had wanted to try and give a raise so that you could earn more, there is no easy way for them to change the commute you would have. This would hopefully should show them that it wouldn't be a good idea to try and make it work but to just move on. |
Anonymous
| In that case OP stress that you picked it for the better commute. They cannot argue or take offense to that. 3 weka notice will also signal you are trying to be as considerate as possible since it is beyond the bare minim if 2 weeks. |
Anonymous
|
Your plan sounds good. You sound very responsible to me OP.
Three weeks notice is sufficient for them to find a new nanny plus you have enough ca$h in case they do fire you on the spot. I would just let them know you found another position that works better for you. The first thing this family will want to know is the WHY? part which is perfectly understandable. Esp. if they think things are going well. Just be vague, but civil. Maybe fudge a little if you have to. Good luck w/the new position!!!!! ~ |