Advice Needed

[Anonymous]

So, my MB and DB are having marriage problems. I feel like they are trying to make me their marriage counselor when I am just their nanny. I feel for the kids because they are being put in the middle of everything. They come to me for comfort, especially when their parents are arguing. I don't want to leave the kids, but this is getting out of hand.

Both parents are also taking all of their problems out on me. I feel like an emotional punching bag. MB actually ripped up my contract in front of me when I went to speak to her about it. I know this is all because of stress, but I am on the verge of quitting because I don't want to be treated this way.

I never thought that I would ever find myself in this situation.

[Anonymous]

You don't deserve to be treated that way. I would start looking for something else. Your position sounds miserable.

[Anonymous]

Awful. If possible you need to tell them that you can't be in the middle/be hearing about their marriage. They're paying you to take care of the kids and you want to do the best job you can but can only do that if you focus on the kids and not what's happening between the parents.

You might be able to say "I can help you both the most by focussing on the kids, and to do that I need to not be privy to whatever is happening in your marriage."

But honestly it sounds miserable and for your own sake you might want to look for something else.

So very very sad for the kids...

[Anonymous]

So sad. Poor children. Maybe if you get another job, one of the parents will have to focus on the children. Someone needs to take care of them.

[Anonymous]

They are going through a difficult time now and unfortunately you are caught up in the middle of a storm.

Sit down and talk about it w/them.
Perhaps they don't realize how harsh things have been for you lately. Their pain is most likely clouding their judgement and I am hoping they will apologize.

If after talking it out, they still continue to act out, then by all means quit.