Would You Bother Telling MB

[Anonymous]

I plan on taking a stroll with my charge later this afternoon in the park since the weather is nice.

Originally I decided on tagging along with this "New Moms Group" that MB told me about. They also plan on taking a stroll in the park at around the same time I plan on going.

But my friend (not a nanny) is getting off early and will be in the area. I'd much rather stroll with her. Nothing against the Moms Group... I can always meet them in the upcoming weeks for their other frequent strolls.

In all honesty, MB doesn't really care if I go with the Moms Group or not... and she knew I was planning on heading out to the park since yesterday one way or the other.

Question: Should I bother mentioning to MB that I'm taking a stroll with my friend? FWIW, MB is laid back and really doesn't care what I do. So it's really a matter of whether or not it's that big a deal to mention. Also, my charge is an infant and will likely be sleeping or staring happily during the stroll. So it's not like I will be depriving her of social interaction if I don't go with the Moms Group... especially since we attend several social group activities each week.

[Anonymous]

As a MB, I'd like you to be upfront about meeting up with your friend, but don't mind it.

[Anonymous]

My MB doesn't really care when or where we walk during the day, but as laid back as she is, would likely want to know if someone new was going to be around the baby.

[Anonymous]

Gotcha... will shoot her a text and let her know. Thanks for the replies guys.

[Anonymous]

MB here - agree w/ the other MB, I wouldn't mind at all but I'd always rather know more than less. It increases my level of confidence in knowing that you would always share anything important if I know that you share small stuff too. (Hope that made sense.)

Basically, it wouldn't matter to me at all that you chose to walk w/ a friend rather than a moms group. But you letting me know makes me feel like you want to be totally upfront. That kind of behavior creates so much trust and comfort in your judgment. And it gives the MB the chance to make clear that she trusts your judgment and isn't a nutcase! Just a great relationship building tactic all around.

[Anonymous]

Sure! Never hurts to tell whenever you wonder. Lots of parents love hearing even seemingly trivial stuff.

[Anonymous]

I would just mention that while you would love to stroll w/the mom's group, you would prefer to stroll w/your buddy since she gets off early. Since MB is so laid back, she most likely will be okay w/it.

I worked for a laid back family who let me meet friends for lunch and stuff.
I never brought anyone into their home, but if a friend was free, they went to lunch or the park w/us.

As a mother, I would be happy if my nanny could do some socializing on the job to prevent her from feeling isolated and bored.

A happy nanny = a happy baby!

[Anonymous]

Yeah just casually mention it. I mean as other pp's have mentioned, it's not a huge deal. But, omitting something is basically the same as lying! But it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders and will be able to figure it out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah just casually mention it. I mean as other pp's have mentioned, it's not a huge deal. But, omitting something is basically the same as lying! But it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders and will be able to figure it out

Is it really, though? I don't want to derail this thread but I don't tell my MB when I stop to get coffee after story hour and I don't feel like I'm lying about it (and since there are other nannies and moms who also go, I don't think it's that different of a scenario). My MB wouldn't care if she knew, but does she really want to know it all?? If I told her every detail of every day we'd be tacking on an extra 30 minutes to my work day!

[Anonymous]

MB here. I wouldn't care who you walked with and I don't think it's lying if you don't tell me. I like to hear about the day, but I trust you to tell me what you think is important.

[Anonymous]

You know your mb...is she the kind of mom who wants to know every little thing or is she the kind that doesn't want to be bigged down with details and would see you as incompetant if you couldn't get through the day w/o telling her everything?

[Anonymous]

I would tell her the first time and then have a conversation about when she would like to clear it up front.

Ie. if you were meeting a man she may care, or maybe if you were having a friend and her child to the house instead of a mom group mom/baby... Ie, just have the conversation once to find out what h would like to know about ahed of time and go from there.