How to deal with inconsiderate parents?

[Anonymous]

Hello,

I need some advice on how to talk to my MB and DB about a few things. They are adding more chores onto my work load (I now do their laundry and their dishes) and they are coming home late everyday without notice. They can be difficult to talk to, especially MB, who believes that I should be doing everything to help their family. I don't mind helping them, but I am starting to burnout. I am still being paid the same amount of money that I was being paid when they first hired me. The only thing keeping me at this position are the kids, but if things don't change, I might have to start looking for another position.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Schedule a meeting, then follow up with a note, stating your agreements.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a contract? If so stop doing things that aren't in it. When they come to you about it point to the contract and ask would they like to amend it? If they want to add those duties, and you're fine with doing them, amend your contract to reflect the new duties and a subsequent change in pay. If you don't have a contract, that was your first mistake. You can try discussing to with them, but you have nothing to point to that shows very clearly what was and was not what you agreed to do.

[Anonymous]

Parents frequently try to take advantage of the nanny like that. You need to stand up to them and stop being a doormat, or nobody will respect you.

[Anonymous]

You need to let them know that you'd like to schedule a meeting this month to go over your change in responsibilities, which day this month works for them? Then while you're saying "Here's a list of the responsibilities that have been added; I think a $250 an hour increase is reasonable for that added workload" also bring up that you give a 15 minute grace period for lateness but they've exceeded that x number of times in the last two months and you're going to have to begin charging a late fee if they're going to continue being late on a regular basis. Plus if they're going to be over an hour late, you need to know which neighbor they'd like you to bring the kids to.

[Anonymous]

Are they paying you OT? Probably not so you write down how many times they have been late, total time, and tell, you do not ask, this is OT pay. They do not havea choice as OT is fed. Law.

[Anonymous]

There will be those that advise you to try to work out a solution to this problem so the children do not lose a beloved nanny, but I have to disagree.

In my humble opinion, these are huge red flags that show a family's true colors.
This family likes the idea of stretching their dollar as far as they can, sadly at the expense of their children.

They are the way they are and will not change if you just have a talk w/them.

Better to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There will be those that advise you to try to work out a solution to this problem so the children do not lose a beloved nanny, but I have to disagree.

In my humble opinion, these are huge red flags that show a family's true colors.
This family likes the idea of stretching their dollar as far as they can, sadly at the expense of their children.

They are the way they are and will not change if you just have a talk w/them.

Better to move on.

+1

[Anonymous]

say NO. take a stand.

[Anonymous]

You obviously need to sit down and be open with them about how you are feeling. Are you their first nanny? Do you have a contract? I would talk to them about what nanny duties you are comfortable with and reiterate that those duties are strictly childcare related. Explain that there are nanny/housekeeper workers, but that requires additional compensation and time, as your day does not allow for housekeeping duties to be fulfilled adequately. Tell them that you are comfortable continuing with said nanny duties. If you don't have a contract, work through one with them. Take a few days to hash out the specifics. Also, remind them that you are flexible and a team player, so you don't mind picking up extra duties on occasion, as long as you do not feel taken advantage of. I would take this time to remind them that you have obligations outside of work which need to be respected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Schedule a meeting, then follow up with a note, stating your agreements.

I'm currently working with parents who just don't want to schedule a meeting. It's always, maybe we'll have some time next month. They've made their lives crazy busy, so there's hardly any time for the children. Is this hopeless?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schedule a meeting, then follow up with a note, stating your agreements.

I'm currently working with parents who just don't want to schedule a meeting. It's always, maybe we'll have some time next month. They've made their lives crazy busy, so there's hardly any time for the children. Is this hopeless?

They make time for what is important to them. Obviously, you are not. Face facts! Find a new job and do not look back. Also, they will probably fire you on the spot so give no more notice than you can afford to losee. Next time, have a contract and stick to it!

[Anonymous]

Parents are busy and not thinking about this stuff.
Don’t over play it or listen to all these disgruntled nannies.
You have a good job and a few small things need to change, tell them this simply

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schedule a meeting, then follow up with a note, stating your agreements.

I'm currently working with parents who just don't want to schedule a meeting. It's always, maybe we'll have some time next month. They've made their lives crazy busy, so there's hardly any time for the children. Is this hopeless?

Why would they schedule a meeting when they have all the advantages and you are caring for their kids. Give them one week to schedule and attend a meeting with you. If the meeting doesn't happen by day 7 you resign on day 8.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents are busy and not thinking about this stuff.
Don’t over play it or listen to all these disgruntled nannies.
You have a good job and a few small things need to change, tell them this simply

The nanny who takes care of your children should be a priority. You are crazy.