Nannies, Who is a better "boss", mom or dad?

[Anonymous]

You'd think mb would be the better boss, but over the years, I've found that often she isn't. Maybe because the dad doesn't have any of the jealousy or guilt stuff going on? Also, it's more likely that the dad has some prior experience "delegating work". If they're "successful", they don't have time to micro-manage. They understand the inherent damage that it causes. They more often seem to understand the value in hiring the best help you can afford.

[Anonymous]

Of my former bosses, MBs are the ones I communicate with most frequently and I've never had any issues. Of my current bosses, my MBs are involved in the day to day happenings with the children but are constantly fumbling the logistical side of things ie. remembering to run my payroll, clearing schedule changes with me and the other family, responding to emails, etc. It's the dads that I have to go to in order to get it done right. Both MBs also tend to allow their emotions to cloud their decision making, which I find very strange in such intelligent, successful women.

[Anonymous]

My DB is a jerk, really, in so many ways. I have to say, however, that I find it refreshing to see him, because he doesn't need to discuss every little detail about unimportant things, like the child's choice of dance clothes (which is one of the acceptable outfits they for dance anyway), or whatever. I guess that means he doesn't micromanage and doesn't mull over tiny decisions that I, or even the child, could make. At the end of a day, he's also not waiting to her every little detail of what went on, he just chats a tiny bit and says thanks and goodbye. In the morning, same thing, he just leaves stuff up to me, doesn't discuss it to death, and that is it.

MB will discuss things to death, focused on unimportant details, then forget the important ones completely. She also says thanks about once per year.

[Anonymous]

Dads are easier to talk to, hands down. There is none of the awkwardness that seems to crop up between nannies and MBs. Even those who like each other find it occasionally awkward I think.

However, I discuss all of the issues that come up like scheduling, payment, and questions about care with my MBs, so really they're doing much more of the managing ("bossing") than the DBs are.

I've been lucky to only ever have one horrible position, and in that case the MB was a shrew and the DB was great, but overall I have liked all of my other MBs and DBs.

[Anonymous]

My DB and i have a better relationship than me with the MB, but it's because I see him much more often.

[Anonymous]

MB. Hands down. DB is the type that considers spending any time with his child "babysitting", so no, he's not the one I would go to first.

[Anonymous]

DB, because he is less involved and just lets me do my job.

[Anonymous]

DB's are easier if they work at home. They will hide from the kids.
MB's are better at giving you less work, not expecting you to do anything during naps, bonuses, raises, and paying you when they don't you. DBs look at you like an employee in another profession and think you get too much.

[Anonymous]

I've always had better relationships with the DB's. MB's usually micromanage whereas the DB's are more laid back and less high strung.

[Anonymous]

Mb is not micromanaging at all! She gives me complete authority of the day. She will back me up no matter what I say. I text her during nap and when i get home (she isnt home when i leave) to update her on the day
DB comes home ask how long the slept. I tell him important details (not because he cares... but because I feel obligated) I think it acutally annoys him somtimes when I talk about our day or tell him things like DS tripped today and bumped his head...

Both are great. I have a better relationship with MB. She thanks me everyday with out fail, wishes us a good day and says call if you need ANYTHING!!
DB is more causual... kind of awkard and talks thru the kids if that makes sense!

[Anonymous]

I only see dad 3 or 4 times a month but I think he is the better boss honestly.MB is more of a friend and I love her,but dad is more accommodating for me when he is around...

[Anonymous]

Depends on the family/ individuals.

I've had both.

[Anonymous]

People should get training before they hire a nanny.

[Anonymous]

DBs I've come across tend to be more hands off with the day-to-day matters and more heavy-handed with the occasional nanny mistake. It's like they expect the nanny to be like they are at the office and take "constructive criticism" well even though nannies often have a more personal relationship with the family. The MBs have a more intimate knowledge of how to run the household and therefore let the little things go in favor of maintaining a good relationship with the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Both of my employers are pretty good at managing. MB calls the shots in some areas, DB in other areas. The three of us work well together.