Going out to dinner with mb db and the kids

[Anonymous]

My nanny family invites me out to eat probably 2-3 times a week. I've been working with them for over 4 years and this has really occurred most frequently in the last year. I'm single, a recent college graduate, and live far from my family so I usually go (aside from the fact that I truly enjoy it!) the only problem I have with it is that they always pay. They refuse to allow me to pay for myself much less try to pay for all of them once and a while! I just feel nad. I enjoy tbe company and food, but I hate that I never get to pay for myself. Does anyone experience this? Is it ok? I just don't want to seem like a moocher or something!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny family invites me out to eat probably 2-3 times a week. I've been working with them for over 4 years and this has really occurred most frequently in the last year. I'm single, a recent college graduate, and live far from my family so I usually go (aside from the fact that I truly enjoy it!) the only problem I have with it is that they always pay. They refuse to allow me to pay for myself much less try to pay for all of them once and a while! I just feel nad. I enjoy tbe company and food, but I hate that I never get to pay for myself. Does anyone experience this? Is it ok? I just don't want to seem like a moocher or something!

Don't worry as you more than earn this tiny gesture.

[Anonymous]

I eat out/order food with the family I work for all the time. I always thank them multiple times, but they would never, ever let me pay. I feel uncomfortable when people pay for me, and I know how you feel. I felt especially bad one time when DB encouraged me to order a beer with dinner. I'm sure they appreciate you offering to pay, but all you can really do is go above and beyond during work! I'm glad to read that I'm not the only one who enjoys "hanging out" with the family. I love them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny family invites me out to eat probably 2-3 times a week. I've been working with them for over 4 years and this has really occurred most frequently in the last year. I'm single, a recent college graduate, and live far from my family so I usually go (aside from the fact that I truly enjoy it!) the only problem I have with it is that they always pay. They refuse to allow me to pay for myself much less try to pay for all of them once and a while! I just feel nad. I enjoy tbe company and food, but I hate that I never get to pay for myself. Does anyone experience this? Is it ok? I just don't want to seem like a moocher or something!

Where is the problem?

[Anonymous]

I go out to eat with my nanny family often as well.. and same deal, they never let me pay. DB told me it really does make them feel good to be able to do that for me for all I do for them so I stopped fighting for the bill. Just let them do it, it's a really nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

This is not a tiny gesture, as a PP said above. It's a really generous gesture, OP, and I think you should just enjoy it and thank them. Clearly, they enjoy your company, which is also sign of a job well done for you.

[Anonymous]

If they're the ones asking you, they are the ones who should pay...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My nanny family invites me out to eat probably 2-3 times a week. I've been working with them for over 4 years and this has really occurred most frequently in the last year. I'm single, a recent college graduate, and live far from my family so I usually go (aside from the fact that I truly enjoy it!) the only problem I have with it is that they always pay. They refuse to allow me to pay for myself much less try to pay for all of them once and a while! I just feel nad. I enjoy tbe company and food, but I hate that I never get to pay for myself. Does anyone experience this? Is it ok? I just don't want to seem like a moocher or something!

Where is the problem?

You are on a roll today, huh? Please find a hobby.

[Anonymous]

This is one way they show you how thankful they are for you taking care of their precious children. Tell them thank-you, and enjoy the meal!

[Anonymous]

I go out all the time with my family I work for. I was told the first time I went out do not try to pay for anything. We know there are things you pay for that you don't tell us about. Order a drink or two we don't care. It's better than a job I had before where I had to bring every bit of food or drink I consumed.