Need help in retaining my dignity

[Anonymous]

I have an issue that I caused and I was wondering how to handle it, what to anticipate, etc.

Last summer I went on vacation with my family and they rented a XXXXX (edited, too specific) and invited some of their family. The brother of my male employer and I (Im not going to sugar coat this) were attracted to each other and over the course of the next twelve days we began a physical relationship. He was married with children at the time. No one was the wiser. When I returned home, I received an email from him saying, "you don't know what it took to get your email address. Just want you to know that these past two weeks were two of the best of my life."

I did not respond.

This Thanksgiving, he and his wife had an altercation, seperated and he filed for divorce.

Spring Break, we are slated to travel to XXXXX where we all stay in the family chateau. I was just told this morning that the brother of my employer will be joining us with his children.

I'm not hoping for wedding bells. I just want to get through this with some degree of dignity.
Any advice would be super appreciated.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what exactly is your question. However, I do think it's a little too late for you to worry about your dignity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure what exactly is your question. However, I do think it's a little too late for you to worry about your dignity.

How do I save face as I do want to continue a relationship with DB's brother? How do I share the news to my NF?

[Anonymous]

Oh, please. Are you getting paid for posting these nonsense Lifetime movie problems on this site?

This is your second today. It's tiresome. Really.

[Anonymous]

If you want to do the right thing, do not attend this get-together. People will notice there is something between you two and make the connection between the last summer and Thanksgiving's breakup. Do you want to lose your job? The kids will hate you and it will be a bad way to start a relationship. Wait until he is divorced and then some.

[Anonymous]

Make sure that you know him well enough to know that this is something you are seriously going to want. Before you tell your employers you want to be sure that this wasn't just a physical attraction, infatuation, or a fling.

Also, I would leave it up to the brother to break the news to the family when the time comes to do so. I would probably keep the relationship a secret for a while.

Be prepared for your family to possibly let you go. If your job is more important than this man then don't risk it and don't get involved.

[Anonymous]

If you were telling the truth and really wanted to 'retain your dignity', you would have quit this job a long, long time ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, please. Are you getting paid for posting these nonsense Lifetime movie problems on this site?

This is your second today. It's tiresome. Really.

This may be the first time that this poster and I are in full agreement. I think op often uses this forum to see how believable her tales are, and how much "advice" she can attract. I think it's a very bored person, but uses her imagination as a refuge.

[Anonymous]

So you haven't seen him in over 6 months? And you didn't respond to his email, so you haven't talked to him in that long either?
You say you want a relationship with him? I'm confused.

[Anonymous]

I think you are getting the same advice here that you got on ISYN. Troll or quit your job!!

[Anonymous]

HAHA what dignity?

You're a whore.

You seem to think your fairy tale is just around the corner, just wait until everything smashes right in your face for being a slut!

HAHA..dignity my ass!


Otherwise, great novel idea OP