Just asking

[Anonymous]

Is it me or is it rude to ask your nanny to make dinner and not offer her any or sit and eat it in front of her face...

[Anonymous]

Yes. Incredibly rude. If my bosses did this, I might cry

[Anonymous]

So rude. I once started a job, and on the second day the grandmother (who was basically a slave) had me prepare a lasagna from scratch, like pasta and all, and then informed me after it was in the oven that the kids wouldn't eat it because it has tomato sauce, and I would be preparing a separate meal for them. While they ate dinner, the mother pointed to the closet, where I would find a bucket and rag to scrub the paneling on their walls. This was after completing a full page, front and back, of chores in their house. During this time, both children were in preschool full-time. I was told when I was hired that there would be some light housekeeping related to children and that I would have them all day. Also, both parents and the grandmother were home all day. Also a surprise. I informed them on my way out that evening that they would not see me again. Don't let them disrespect you like that.

[Anonymous]

I guess some might consider it rude, but if it's part of your job, then no, they aren't required to ask you to eat with them everytime.

[Anonymous]

So disgustingly rude.

[Anonymous]

If you are a live-in it is rude but if you are a live-out and it is in your work agreement to make family dinners every night then I think it would be weird to invite to you stay and eat every night. If I were the family I would assume that you didn't have a problem making the meals since you agreed to it (even though on here you sound resentful) and I would also assume that you had a life of your own outside of work that you wanted to get home to.

[Anonymous]

If cooking family dinners is part of your job, then I wouldn't expect them to invite you to join them unless that was what you agreed to in advance. If cooking for the family is not part of your job, and you did it as a favor/extra for MB, then yes it was rude not to ask you to join them.

[Anonymous]

I was a live-in once where I was asked to cook and set the table for dinner. The family would sit down and eat, while I was asked to stick around in the kitchen, never asked to join them, and then was expected to clean up once they were finished. I felt like a slave girl, and quit as soon as I could find somewhere to go!

[Anonymous]

To me it's rude. Sometimes I come on here and realize how lucky I am to have nice and normal bosses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me it's rude. Sometimes I come on here and realize how lucky I am to have nice and normal bosses.

+1000000

This is the primary reason I read DCUM - to remind myself how wonderful (and normal!) my employers are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess some might consider it rude, but if it's part of your job, then no, they aren't required to ask you to eat with them everytime.

Of course they aren't required, but I personally would be embarressed if my family did that and didn't offer any food. Not only to a nanny but any house guest.

[Anonymous]

If it is part of her job and she is a live-out nanny, no, it isn't rude to offer some of the food to her. Now, if she is a live-in nanny, yes, that would be rude.

We had a cleaning lady who would cook for the family while she was there and we would eat in front of her. Never considered it to be rude, it was part of her job and she didn't live with us.