Please do NOT call me "one of the family" anymore

[Anonymous]

I am a professional nanny. I am not just like Aunt Judy, nor do I want to be. Auntie can do whatever you need, whenever you need it. You don't need to pay her much, if anything. She can do it all, out of the goodness of her heart. You are her family, not her means of support. I may love your children, and serve as their primary caregiver, but don't ever mistake me as a family member. You may profit from my services, but only as long as I am fairly compensated, and respected accordingly. If not, I shall soon be departing your disfunctional family. Oh yes, my mum is sick and I need to take care of her. Whatever. Adios.
PS. Don't call me YOUR nanny either. Otherwise, you sound like a fool, having a nanny at your age. But maybe it makes you feel loved and pampered, to have a nanny at your age. Or wanting to reclaim a childhood you never had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a professional nanny. I am not just like Aunt Judy, nor do I want to be. Auntie can do whatever you need, whenever you need it. You don't need to pay her much, if anything. She can do it all, out of the goodness of her heart. You are her family, not her means of support. I may love your children, and serve as their primary caregiver, but don't ever mistake me as a family member. You may profit from my services, but only as long as I am fairly compensated, and respected accordingly. If not, I shall soon be departing your disfunctional family. Oh yes, my mum is sick and I need to take care of her. Whatever. Adios.
PS. Don't call me YOUR nanny either. Otherwise, you sound like a fool, having a nanny at your age. But maybe it makes you feel loved and pampered, to have a nanny at your age. Or wanting to reclaim a childhood you never had.

Whatever.

[Anonymous]

I bet certain nannies eat up being one of the family.

[Anonymous]

Wow - axe to grind much?

Our nanny is a part of our family, and we're all better for it. And that is the relationship she sought when looking for a position.

To each their own but don't presume to speak for everyone in your profession.

[Anonymous]

OP speaks in the first person. FYI, that means she speaks for herself. Don't be so defensive, 9:56.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and I absolutely love being considered a part of the family. I do things for them out of the goodness of my heart because I love them like family. They also respect me and I am always fairly compensated. You don't sound like a warm, caring nanny. To each his own, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Eh. I've never been described as one of the family and that suits me fine - I'd say I'm more like a trusted family friend, which is where our relationship functions best. I do extra things for them because I like and respect them, and they return the favor for the same reason.

On the other hand, I'm absolutely fine with my MB introducing me as "our nanny" - I work for the family, so I don't mind. I might work WITH the kids, but I work FOR the parents, so I'd say they're all entitled to feel invested in my title.

[Anonymous]

One would hope that most parents would be pleased and satisfied when a nanny is doing an exceptional job with their child. After all, that's my job!
Please take note, that again, I speak for myself.

[Anonymous]

My nanny family calls me a part of the family and it feels great to head it. I hate nannies like you, OP. You aren't a business woman, you're a nanny and you sound so bitter about it.

[Anonymous]

You define you. I define me. Stop behaving like a control freak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow - axe to grind much?

Our nanny is a part of our family, and we're all better for it. And that is the relationship she sought when looking for a position.

To each their own but don't presume to speak for everyone in your profession.

OP wasn't speaking for everyone. Pay attention, will ya?

[Anonymous]

What is the point of posting on here if not to proclaim your views as though they are relevant to others?

Posting in a public forum invites response, feedback, etc...

If you don't want that then get a journal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the point of posting on here if not to proclaim your views as though they are relevant to others?

Posting in a public forum invites response, feedback, etc...

If you don't want that then get a journal.

+1

[Anonymous]

Yes, she was speaking for herself! But I must say I agree, because I would hope employers wouldn't treat any family member the way I've seen some nannies(including myself)treated when caring for their children!

[Anonymous]

To some of these people introducing you as their "nanny" is making them feel powerful and professional. they like the way it sounds and makes them feel good about themselves.