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I'm new to the whole nanny thing. I just graduated from college and figured this would be a great way to save money before going to grad school. I just got done interviewing with a family and I'm not sure if I'm being taken advantage of. They offered $15/hr (after taxes) w/ 2 weeks paid vacation and paid federal holidays. They expected 50 hours a week but did not discuss overtime (since they are going through a payroll company I assumed overtime was a given). 3 kids ages 3,5, and 8. I'm expected to watch kids, walk to and from school, feed them lunch, do laundry, keep their rooms tidy, load/unload dishwasher, feed/walk dog, bathe kids nightly, drive them to various activities, etc. I was told some overnights are expected and they will give me a $30 overnight bonus. The dad is a lawyer and the mom is a SAHM. They told me to expect to be "on call" 75% of the time and it would be "most ideal if I didn't ever really have plans in my personal life."
For what it's worth, I DID get some weird vibes during the interview when the dad told me they would not hire me if I was a democrat, that he "would enjoy a fire in the fireplace when he gets in from work," and asked me if I had a boyfriend, where we met, how long we've been together for, and if he'd ever been arrested. I just kind of felt like this family might have boundary issues. What are your thoughts? I'm calling them tomorrow to tell them my decision and i'm torn! |
Anonymous
| $15 an hour for duties that didn't include light housekeeping and you have no full time nanny experience is very competitive. However, if you have a strange feeling about them keep looking, 50 hours a week is a long time to spend in someone's home if you are not a good match. |
Anonymous
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As a new nanny, $15 p/ hour with paid vacation and federal holidays sounds reasonable. You'd really only be providing full-time care for the 3-year-old, correct? I mean, 3 children could potentially be A LOT of work, but they're older children, so I think it sounds fair. Typically, from what I understand, through a payroll, anything over 40 hours is considered time-and-a-half. I'm paid through Breedlove, and that's the case with my checks.
I don't think you should be concerned about the pay, I really think the family is throwing up some serious red flags, though... |
Anonymous
| OP here, I DO think the pay is fair, especially since i've never been a full time nanny before. However, the red flags really scare me. The dad just seems so intrusive and it literally made me feel guilty for even having a boyfriend! |
Anonymous
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lol you're not even an experienced nanny and you already think you deserve more money.
at any rate, the family sounds weird and you should find another job. |
Anonymous
| 23:28 perhaps you're illiterate, but I said I thought the money was fair and that it was the red flags that was scaring me away from the job. |
Anonymous
| then don't take the job. you don't need us to tell you that these people sound weird. go with your gut. i swear some people would come to this forum to ask if they should go to the doctor if their arm was falling off. USE YOUR HEAD. you clearly have some brains if you went to college. |
Anonymous
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pp why be so rude? if OP came to forum for whatever reason (validation, support, opinion, suggestions etc) then let her be. It's almost midnight and if all you have to colaborate is throwing stones, then maybe you should excuse yourself and go to bed?
OP. as an experienced nanny, like other pp's pointed out, I think the pay is good. I don't think technically they will be "taking advantage of you" (as they are making you aware before you accept!) but I do predict MAJOR problems. What you need to understand here is, they laid out all they want, need and expect from you. It is up to you to decide if you can live like this. It is a major red flag that they are offering you 50hrs/week but also expect you to be on call 75% of the time (that means 18 hrs/day!!!??? lol), expect "some" overnights to turn into a lot of overnights and $30 is NOT a good overnight rate. Make absolute no plans outside work because they will spring on you last minute "we are going out tonight, you need to babysit" and you will have to comply as you knew that's what they hired you for. DB wants fireplace lit before he gets home? Unless fireplace is electric (or that was said as a joke!) that is another MAJOR red flag for me. He won't hire you if you are a democrat?! How the hell is that any of his business and with that you can assume there might be other issues that will make him judge you. I would NOT take this job in fact I'd run away from it. |
Anonymous
| :10 - thanks for the support! Unfortunately, DB did NOT say the fireplace thing as a joke. I'm a recent college grad. I have nothing but time on my hands and am very flexible. I would be completely fine with covering some last minute stuff. But not having plans in my personal life 75% of the time? that's what I was on the fence about! Thanks for convincing me. I'm not going to take this job. |
Anonymous
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You're welcome. If it doesnt feel right, it isnt! Good luck with your search!
PS: It'd be pretty funny if you just told them you voted for Obama! 
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Anonymous
Run like Hell! Right-Wing loonies that away! |
Anonymous
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I agree, can some of you need please stop being so rude? I've noticed these forums getting less popular and that's because people don't want to leave threads if they constantly see themselves or other posters being attacked.
I think a good amount of the comments are from the same group of 'negative Nancy's' who come on here with their attitudes. I know you're behind the Internet so are more opinionated then you would normally be, but people forget that there are real people with real issues and feelings on the other side so why don't you at least try to make your online use more productive? Of course you don't HAVE too, but it would be nice and people would take whatever you say more seriously and you would feel better about yourself. Being mean or hateful doesn't make you feel better. Alot of insecure people who bully or act a certain way may think it does, but it doesn't. As for you OP, y |
Anonymous
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Oops hit enter too fast.. Anyways, OP, yes definitely speak to them about your issues and see if it changes. SOME lawyers feel above the law but most wouldn't try to screw their nannies on overtime. If they do then leave them asap because it will NOT get better.
Also, they definitely have boundary issues. It's as if the father was seeing if you had a boyfriend and telling you too light fires to ''set the mood''. If he tries to hit on you, or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, LEAVE! (and I'm not saying this is the care, it's just the impression I got lol.) |
Anonymous
| I also agree that if it doesn't feel right, it most likely isn't right. So go with your gut! |
Anonymous
| I'd flat out tell them that I'm a second wave feminist lesbian left wing vegan with three girlfriends and have been arrested for public disturbance and refusal to cooperate with police due to protesting at a mitt romney event. |