Nannies who have kids...how do you do it?

[Anonymous]

I have a good lead on a nanny share job with two newborn infants beginning in the Spring, right around the time my maternity leave will be up from having my first child. I will have the option to have family care for my baby while I work. I really love being an infant nanny and if I can continue to do so after I have my own, that would be great and I need to continue working. However, does it seem strange to leave my own baby to go and care for two other babies? I feel comfortable that I would have family helping me out, but I wonder if I should ask if I can ever bring my own with me, but I wondered if three babies would be too much to handle.

[Anonymous]

Explore doing child care in your own home, or in another home. Do not leave your newborn behind. That's to screwed up for a nanny to do.

[Anonymous]

I could make more being a nanny than doing in home care without a license. Plus I live in an apartment, so doing in home care is not really a good option. I may see about bringing my baby along part of the time. Otherwise, I'll be leaving my baby behind with family to go to an office job.

[Anonymous]

If you brought your baby, would you be willing to pay for (through a wage decrease) a third of the nanny share? This may be appealing for some people, though honestly, it is not the situation I would choose for my baby. Newborns are a lot of work and very demanding. Taking care of 3 babies is a big workload, and one that always requires prioritizing. I would be worried that you wouldn't be able to overcome your natural instinct to care for your baby first. And with three infants, the chance that 2 are crying at the same time is high.

[Anonymous]

The bigger problem with three for me as a MB is that it would be difficult to ever take them out together unless we bought a super-expensive stroller. Babywearing works for many occasions, but if you're not into that, you've got three non-walkers to move around.

Not to mention, I wouldn't try to do triplets on my own!

[Anonymous]

If it's a really good offer, you should take it. A lot of women go back to work with children (nurses, teachers, daycare providers) and leave their own children because they need a paycheck.

If you really reget it later, you can quit, but the job won't be waiting for you if you don't take it.

[Anonymous]

Get a job with a 2 or 3 year old. Then bringing your baby shouldn't be such a big deal. You need a helper of you do 'triplets'.

[Anonymous]

For sure an infant share w/ 2 babies is not the right job if you are hoping to bring your baby too. Decide what is most important - bringing your child, or the wages at a prospective job.

No way would I agree to let nanny bring her child to an infant share - 3 infants totally defeats the point of using a nanny - regardless of any discount. AT that point, why wouldn't you just use a daycare that is actually set up for that ratio level?
If you really want to bring your child, find a family who is offering lowish wages - they will be price sensitive and more open to letting you bring child in exchange for a lower rate than you'd get elsewhere.