WWYD-crying twins?
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Anonymous
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One infant is crying and inconsolable unless being held, the other infant
has a wet and dirty diaper and is crying.....how would you handle this? |
Anonymous
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Put baby A in a sling/Bjorn and change baby B
No carrier? A lays on a mat to cry, B is changed, A is picked back up to soothe. |
Anonymous
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Sometimes a twin is just going to have to cry for a bit. That's part of the reality when you have one person caring for more than one child (this can be true of siblings that aren't multiples too, sometimes you just have to wait your turn).
In a situation where Baby A has a NEED that once met, she will be calm without your continued attention, and Baby B is just fussy for no apparent reason, tend to Baby A quickly, while putting Baby B in a safe place (porta crib, mat on the floor, etc). Then once Baby A is soothed, work on keeping Baby B calm. |
Anonymous
| Please don't double post. You also posted in the Parenting Forum. |
Anonymous
Trying to get feedback from both parents and nannies. If Jeff has an issue with it, he can delete one. Thanks. |
Anonymous
What's the issue with posting again? Maybe they are looking for advice from caregivers who ALSO have experience with multiples. Stop being the DCUM police. |
Anonymous
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How old are they?
Baby is going to have to cry it out sometimes. |
Anonymous
They are 4 months. |
Anonymous
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Agree w/ pp.
Either baby A in carrier or in a safe place to cry while needs of baby B are dealt with. Prioritizing needs, the baby hungry/dirty diaper/etc comes before the one who just needs to be held. If this is a constant problem I would be trying to figure out why. Is baby A sick? Have un/under treated reflux that makes them inconsolable (and likely not sleeping well to add to problem?) Are they both getting enough sleep/stimulation? You don't want baby B neglected because they are easier/not the squeaky wheel. |
Anonymous
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Agree with above. Short term: do what you can for the fussy twin while getting the twin with an actual need squared away. Long term: track levels of fussiness for both and look for underlying causes. Sleep issue and gas/reflux would be my first guess is you have one permanently miserable baby. But being held is a want, diaper change is a need.
I will also say that part of this is how you set up the house. If your diaper station is on a table upstairs only, and you normally sit in a glider to sooth fussy baby, you are setting yourself up for trouble. I prefer to sooth and play sitting on the floor with a bin full of clean bottles and formula and bottled water and burp cloths and a bin full of diapers, wipes, cream and blankets both within reaching distance. That way I can hold fussy baby while grabbing the diaper bin, laying a blanket on the floor, opening a diaper, and getting wipes and cream out and open, while talking to wet baby, then switch kids and do a diaper change REALLY fast, with everything ready. I don't like walking out of the room while a baby cries. |
Anonymous
| Your setting yourself for failure with twins if you scared to let them cry it out...let make sure Baby A is fed changed and burped and put her in a swing or a bouncy seat and let her cry it out snd learn to delf soothe...Now deal with Baby B.... |
Anonymous
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Immediate needs first. Put the other baby in a carrier or closeby and talk to them/soothe them.
Fussing for a few minutes is ok. Crying it out when they are too young to self soothe is not (plus, CIO is a sleep training method, it doesn't mean ignoring them throughout the day). |