MB and I do NOT see eye to eye on this

[Anonymous]

Her DC is 5 mos, and I absolutely adore the ground he lays on. It's just him and I 10 hours a day, I do very minimal housekeeping and he's a super great baby. The issue is MB wants him to sleep every nap in his bed and I feel at 5mos he should sleep where he prefers, which is in the crook of my arm. Anyway, she brought it up tonight to crib train him starting Monday. I'm so sad. That snuggle/cuddle time was the highlight of our days.
I went to B&N tonight to pick out a sleep time book to incorporate into a new routine and while I will 100% respect MBs wishes and crib train her DC, my heart won't truly be in it.
Thanks for letting me vent a little.

[Anonymous]

It's good to vent OP. I think MB might have a valid point. She probably doesn't want DC to get used to always sleeping/napping on someone because that may not be something that she is able to be consistent with when you are not there. At 5 months old it's perfectly okay to start letting the baby sleep in the crib and work on sleep training. I could understand if the baby were just a few weeks old, but I think MB is just trying to be realistic and not let sleep become an issue for the baby in the future. You can still snuggle the baby all day during awake time. And kudos to you for respecting your MB. There are so many bitter nannies on here who would do the total opposite of a request.

-Another nanny who loves snuggling with my charges and understands where you are coming from.

[Anonymous]

Change the routine. Snuggle and cuddle and have story time. Then put him in his crib.

[Anonymous]

I understand OP! I watch 2 infants in a share and while I loved rocking them both to sleep in my arms and would have loved to let them sleep there, it really is in their best interests to learn to sleep on their own and in a crib.

[Anonymous]

When my first charge was 6mos MB said to start puttin ghim in his crib for naps and I missed that sweet sleeping baby too, but the reality is he was getting to big (tall) to keep in the bjorn anymore anyway. Sleep training took 2-3 days and wasn't so bad and then I had free time to do other things..
Laundry, make lunch, catch up on little things and I got used to it. Once when he was about 20 mo he was having a hard time going to sleep so I sat on the couch and held him until he was drowsy. Wouldn't you know that's the day MB came home for lunch. She rolled her eyes and was clearly irritated but it did feel nice to hold him like that on emore time.

[Anonymous]

OP here-
Thanks guys for not calling me crazy for wanting to hold him during naps
And you all are right, he is old enough to learn to sleep alone (and he's not napping well on weekends MB said because she puts him in his bed), and I understand where she's coming from and will train him (hopefully in just a couple of days like the PP!), but boy oh boy when he's not sleeping I'm going to cuddle, kiss and snuggle the hell outta him!

[Anonymous]

That's really sweet that you want to cuddle with your little guy but MB is right. It's much better for LO that he learns to sleep independently.

[Anonymous]

You have many other hours to cuddle. If you don't do it now, its going to become a nightmare later on for her and you. She is right on this and it is her child. Have a long snuggle when he wakes up & at other times. And, take a break. It only gets harder the older they get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have many other hours to cuddle. If you don't do it now, its going to become a nightmare later on for her and you. She is right on this and it is her child. Have a long snuggle when he wakes up & at other times. And, take a break. It only gets harder the older they get.

+1

[Anonymous]

Actually 5 months is a good time to start laying him in the crib. MB doesn't want him to become dependant during naptime and even experts say that after the first two months, parents should start laying their child to in his/her crib.

The longer you wait, the harder it becomes for the child.

Don't take this the wrong way please but, it's her child and a professional nanny understands this. You're working for the parents when they can't be there and you're suppose to make their life easier. This isn't your call and if you do it your way, you're only hurting the baby (not literally) but you're not letting him sleep independantly and yes he's a baby but he's not a month or two, he's 5 months and babies at this age are growing up and if you continue letting MB's baby sleep in your arms, it will make it difficult for both of them in the next few months.

I could understand if it was life or death but this is the type of call that the PARENTS make, not you. I'm sure their are days that the mother wants to have her baby sleep in her arms but she knows she's doing something good for him by letting him get use to his crib. I had a friend who slept with her baby in her arms or besides her and between 5-7 months, the baby would throw the WORST fit if he was laid down in his crib. Sadly, he's almost one and has never slept in his crib, something we all don't agree with but the mother is the mother and if she doesn't put him in the crib then we can't force her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here-
Thanks guys for not calling me crazy for wanting to hold him during naps
And you all are right, he is old enough to learn to sleep alone (and he's not napping well on weekends MB said because she puts him in his bed), and I understand where she's coming from and will train him (hopefully in just a couple of days like the PP!), but boy oh boy when he's not sleeping I'm going to cuddle, kiss and snuggle the hell outta him!

You'll be okay... If the mother can do it then you definitely can do it.

[Anonymous]

Hold him as much as you can. "Sleep training" is so against a baby's basic needs, and 5 month old babies should be held as much as they want to be held, whether they are asleep or awake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually 5 months is a good time to start laying him in the crib. MB doesn't want him to become dependant during naptime and even experts say that after the first two months, parents should start laying their child to in his/her crib.

The longer you wait, the harder it becomes for the child.

Don't take this the wrong way please but, it's her child and a professional nanny understands this. You're working for the parents when they can't be there and you're suppose to make their life easier. This isn't your call and if you do it your way, you're only hurting the baby (not literally) but you're not letting him sleep independantly and yes he's a baby but he's not a month or two, he's 5 months and babies at this age are growing up and if you continue letting MB's baby sleep in your arms, it will make it difficult for both of them in the next few months.

I could understand if it was life or death but this is the type of call that the PARENTS make, not you. I'm sure their are days that the mother wants to have her baby sleep in her arms but she knows she's doing something good for him by letting him get use to his crib. I had a friend who slept with her baby in her arms or besides her and between 5-7 months, the baby would throw the WORST fit if he was laid down in his crib. Sadly, he's almost one and has never slept in his crib, something we all don't agree with but the mother is the mother and if she doesn't put him in the crib then we can't force her.

Uhhhh, this is seriously over the top. If you go back, you will see OP explicitly said, "I will 100% respect MBs wishes and crib train her DC."

[Anonymous]

I'm a new poster and I don't think pp was over the top. Its annoying that nannies think this way. And I AM a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Its your JOB. It isn't about if you enjoy yourself.