MB really? Why would you slash my bonus infront of my eyes?

[Anonymous]

I have been with this family close to three years. I go above and beyond something that they always admit. Every time I travel to my native country I always bring handmade gifts for the family of 5. I always remember their birthdays with gifts and cards. Every Christmas season I get the kids very nice and thoughtful toys, I also get for MB and DB wine. So last night I gave all the kids their Christmas gifts and a card for MB and DB. The kids were very happy and MB expressed appreciation. She told me that my pay for the week, a card and a bonus was on the kitchen counter for me too . The bonus which was not in an envelope was clipped on my pay check and the card so I had seen it even before she mentioned it. As I was helping one of the kid's set up the new toy, I saw MB walk over to where my bonus was, took out some cash out and put it in her wallet before putting the rest of the bonus back to where my pay was. When she left the room, I went to peep only to find 20 dollars... Yes 20 dollars for a bonus. I was just speechless . A few minutes later, I noticed that she had added some notes when I was in a different room to make it 50 dollars. I am very certain that my initial bonus was 200+ and I am very shocked to say the least. I am guessing that the reason she deducted the bonus is because she thought I didn't get her and DB anything other than the card. Inside the envelope was 2 coupons for Saturday night babysitting. I am not even upset about it, I am just stunned - not because the bonus was 50 dollars but because she deducted it after I gave the kids their gifts. I have not heard from her so I am guessing she has not opened the card yet.

[Anonymous]

Wow! Won't she feel like a bitch when she opens the card. That's pretty low class of her to do that. It's not even typical for an employee to give the employer anything more than a card so even if that's all you had given her she shouldn't have reduced your bonus.

[Anonymous]

ewwwwwww

[Anonymous]

My DH said it is low class too. I mean ohh well ... If she was giving me more bonus than she felt I deserved but the reduced it because " I didn't give her a gift " that is something.

[Anonymous]

If this actually happened, apparently she didn't think you did as good a job as last year.

[Anonymous]

Tacky. She should have put the bonus in an envelope and never in plain sight.

[Anonymous]

That's fucked up...I would say something and look for another job. Clearly she doesn't value your hard work and dedication.

[Anonymous]

Cancel the coupons. You were foolish to give two, anyway. My dear, this should have opened your eyes as to how she really feels about you. Start looking, and give notice as soon as you find another job. Maybe you should give her back the $50.00, and tell her what you saw the skinflint do.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for your responses. I really think it is time to start looking. I would hate working for a family while feeling resentful and unappreciated. For the PP saying maybe I didn't work as hard this year, that is not true and if she felt that way, then she should not have offered the initial bonus. This year I have actually worked the longest hours and my job has been very difficult but I have never complained. One of the kids has developmental and behavior problems and this year has been very tough. I really wish I could say something but she will go on defensive and then start acting passive aggressive so I will not even bring it up. I will however not go above and beyond anymore. I will not have those "friendly casual conversations" that she always try to start on Monday and Friday evening. I will not do "extra" evenings sitting anymore. I am still going to honor the coupons though I doubt she will use anyway.

[Anonymous]

you should 100% ask her ....she will feel like a complete idiot!

[Anonymous]

I really do not see the point of asking her. The last time we had a pay disagreement she went on and on about how she thought what she had paid me (no overtime) was fair etc. I am sure she suspects I saw her doing it cos I went from bubbly to an even mood. I will just give her and DH attitude for the next couple of weeks but if DB asks me I will tell him what I saw and how I feel.

[Anonymous]

Stop with the passive aggressive behavior as this makes the situation worse. You are an adult, a t like one and talk to both of them. Not paying OT is i.acceptable and you should report this to local W&L board. Do not honor babysitting coupons.

[Anonymous]

To the PPs suggesting I cancel the coupons, what? Are you suggesting I tell MB the coupons I gave her are no longer valid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the PPs suggesting I cancel the coupons, what? Are you suggesting I tell MB the coupons I gave her are no longer valid?

Subtlety. You simply are not available whenever she wants to cash in coupons.

[Anonymous]

You shouldnt ask her. We nannies are not entitled to bonuses. Bonuses are perks and gifts and people give gifts if they feel like. It is upsetting? Yes it is because we give them our all and it us always nice to receive an extra cash, but we are not entitled to it. Now, if you get short paid then yes you have to address it but it is because you are entitled to get paid for thr hours you worked.