Baby's first steps/walking

[Anonymous]

Hi,

MBs would you want to know if your baby took their first steps with your nanny? Nannies do you share this milestone with your MB/DB or just let it go until they do it with their parents?

This recently happened to me and I shared the milestone with the parents and even sent a video. But now I feel I made the wrong choice based on the reaction I received. I was just so excited I didn't think twice about sharing.

[Anonymous]

What was the reaction? You were right to share. If they are acting rude about it then they have a problem.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear that OP. I totally understand your excitement! Its hard to keep to myself, but I try really hard to let my MB/DB experience the big milestones "first" even if I am the one to see it first.

[Anonymous]

Anytime I start a new job with a family I ask them if they would like to know if their child has made a milestone. Alot of first time parents want to experience it for themselves. Every family is different. My current family loves to hear all about their sons day and doesn't mind me telling them if he says a new word, etc.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Their reaction wasn't as excited and seemed more disappointed. It made me feel bad and kind of burst the excitement bubble.

[Anonymous]

With all 3 families I used to work with, I shared and took video/pictures. They were excited.

Sometimes the milestones are gradual so you can share that they are getting closer, are trying to do something new, etc and then they will experience that milestone on their own. Depends on the baby.

[Anonymous]

I want to know when anything, good or bad, happens with our child. I want to have an honest relationship with our nanny.

[Anonymous]

I usually ask this in the interview, but in practice I'll usually tell them the child is getting really close to doing X (walking is the main one people care about I think.) If the baby is rolling I will tell them because that can be a safety hazard if they put the baby on the couch or their bed. Most parents care about the first words but after a few they don't care too much and in fact might want a heads up that a certain sound means banana o rmilk or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Like the pp I too just say "I think baby is getting really close to doing x - keep a close eye on her over the weekend". I don't want to spoil the moment for the parents, or cause them to feel guilty that they couldn't be there for this milestone in their childs life

[Anonymous]

My MB asked me not to tell her. After baby started walking she asked me if I saw before her.

[Anonymous]

Nanny 101 you NEVER tell MB what milestone they accomplished with you. Even if they do, act like it's awesome when MB tells you so and so did this today. Bad choice to let MB know. This is another way of rubbing in that you are with her and her mom is missing out on things like this. Next time, just say I THINK so and so is getting close to running, crawling, whatever but DON'T brag about how they did such and such milestone with you! MY MB asked if how I would handle LOs milestones. I told her, I would just mention that she might be getting close to doing them but never outright videotape or tell her. MB said thanks, and she said she appreciated that I would not showoff what charger did for her. She said MOST nannies lie too, as they want their bosses to feel like they're not missing out on their child's milestone, it's a very precious moment. She found a nanny forum, that adviced on NEVER bragging about what milestone they did, instead just casually said'''I think so and so *might be ready'. Those nannies that said otherwise, are too proud to admit they're wrong or they're full of sh it. OP, how would YOU feel if your nanny told you about your child's milestone and she got to see it first? I'm sure you wouldn't be too happy either. For next time you know the drill!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like the pp I too just say "I think baby is getting really close to doing x - keep a close eye on her over the weekend". I don't want to spoil the moment for the parents, or cause them to feel guilty that they couldn't be there for this milestone in their childs life

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny 101 you NEVER tell MB what milestone they accomplished with you. Even if they do, act like it's awesome when MB tells you so and so did this today. Bad choice to let MB know. This is another way of rubbing in that you are with her and her mom is missing out on things like this. Next time, just say I THINK so and so is getting close to running, crawling, whatever but DON'T brag about how they did such and such milestone with you! MY MB asked if how I would handle LOs milestones. I told her, I would just mention that she might be getting close to doing them but never outright videotape or tell her. MB said thanks, and she said she appreciated that I would not showoff what charger did for her. She said MOST nannies lie too, as they want their bosses to feel like they're not missing out on their child's milestone, it's a very precious moment. She found a nanny forum, that adviced on NEVER bragging about what milestone they did, instead just casually said'''I think so and so *might be ready'. Those nannies that said otherwise, are too proud to admit they're wrong or they're full of sh it. OP, how would YOU feel if your nanny told you about your child's milestone and she got to see it first? I'm sure you wouldn't be too happy either. For next time you know the drill!

MB here, this is so sad. I want to know the actual date of the milestones. Sure, I wouldn't want it done in some sort of braggy way that indicated the nanny was responsible for it, but as a mother of a baby who is on the late side of normal for her gross motor milestones I just want to know DC is doing what she should. DC first rolled over when no one was looking and my mother was with her; I totally missed it. I have zero regrets that I wasn't there. I got to see it many times after.