violent four year old
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Anonymous
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How do nannies deal with a very violent and aggressive four year old?
I have one charge who is a four year old littele boy who is quite aggressive toward other children and adults as well as having very violent tendacies. He has told me that he is going to kill me and cut off my head. A few times when he is in a fit of rage he actually goes and tries to get a knife. I am very concerned as MB is about to have another child and that he will hurt or kill him. Any suggestions? |
Anonymous
| Talk to your bosses! |
Anonymous
| Get the hell out of there. |
Anonymous
OP I did and the MB kind of chuckles and shrugs it off as him being a high strung child instead of a serious problem. I am very close to putting in my notice and have begun a job search as I honestly can't deal with such a violent child. |
Anonymous
| Get out of there, especially since the MB doesn't see it as a problem. She's going to have one hell of a teenager on her hands at some point. |
Anonymous
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If you don't need the MB as a reference I would simply say "I am resigning because of your child's violent outbursts. They have become more scary to the point that I am worried about my personal safety". If that doesn't get the message across to your MB I'm not sure what will.
If you need her as a reference, you are kind of stuck. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| If you must give notice and wait out the 2 weeks because you need the reference then I would suggest that as soon as you get to work every day that you find all knives and scissors and place them in a place where there is no way in heck he can get to him. If you do this then at the very least you don't have to worry about him stabbing you. |
Anonymous
I would not stay one minute in a workplace with the prospect of violence. OP, no references worth being hurt, attzcked, or killed by this psycopath. Monster. WTH, no one should have to lock up knives, scissors or other possible weapons. Just get out now. |
Anonymous
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I can't believe the lack of compassion coming from some of you! Maybe it's just because my work has primarily been with children with special needs, but a child that young is clearly struggling with something. I'm not saying he's necessarily got a behavioral disability, but is it possible he's upset with the prospect arrival of a new sibling or has he always been this way? You need to have a serious sit down with mb and tell her of she's not willing to work with you to figure out why her son isn't acting like a "normal" 4 year old, then you'll have to leave.
I would not, however, ever call this child a monster or a psychopath. He's a young child, if anyone's to blame its the parents for not intervening. |
Anonymous
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Nope, you are wrong. Children who end up being adult psychopaths exhibit the behavior at an early age. I did not hear OP put any 'blame' on the child, she stated facts. And it is not her job to sit around be attacked.
And you work with specials needs kids (great) who have been identified as special needs, whose parents know that kind of services they need and provide them. That is a different world from parents who are in denial about their kid. Also, give as much notice as you want- but they will not be a good reference for you anyway. |
Anonymous
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Wow, you nannies watch way too much television.
Yes, OP, you should get a new job because clearly you don't have the skills to deal with a difficult child. That said, it's sort of ridiculous to jump to psychopath conclusions based on your pretty thin story. |