I just started a part-time nanny job and I don't think it's a good fit. What should I do?
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Anonymous
| Hi - I just started a part-time nanny/babysitting job just 1 day a week. They have a full-time nanny the other days, and I am a full-time nanny for another family on those days. I've sat for them 4 times now, and I just don't feel like it's fit for me at all. It's an 11 hour day, and neither children nap, and they are not allowed to watch TV, so it's a really long day for me, and I get too worn out by not having a break at all. The children are very, very high-energy and needy and its just too physically demanding to have to constantly engage them. I also have trouble with the parents. They micromanage our schedule to a tee. (Literally a written list of what to do every 15 minutes, a detailed list of what to feed them and when, very specific rules). They also call multiple times a day to check on things, and sometimes call that evening to discuss their day even further..... It just stresses me out and I don't like the job at all. Has anyone ever worked for a MB like this? I was hoping she would calm down a little once we got to know each other and build trust, but I don't feel like things are getting better and it's just too stressful for me!!! I'm just wondering what the best way to approach this is, and do I need to give a 2 weeks notice? What should I say to her? Is over phone or email okay since I only see her once a week? Any advice would be great. I have never quit a job after only a month. |
Anonymous
| Leave. Why did you accept a job with an 11-hour day? |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
OP here. I didn't think it would be a problem because my current FT job is 12 hour days, but the children nap so I have a few hours of downtown each day. |
Anonymous
| find something else and give them a week notice. odds are it is NOT going to get any better |
Anonymous
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Be honest "I'm sorry but I just don't think that I am a good fit for this job" follow up with something like "your children have so much enthusiasm and I am really going to miss them. This is my two weeks notice, or whatever.
I wouldn't go into how stressful you find it, or how crazy the parent seem. Its not like you will use this lady as a reference or anything so you just have to stay calm and polite. Feel free to say sorry a bunch of times. I too think that sounds really stressful. One of my charges was having a rough week last week and was only napping for tiny amounts of time, and I too found that really stressful. I really do need 25m in the middle of the day to eat some lunch, have a cup of tea and take a couple of deep breaths. |
Anonymous
+1 to everything PP said. Apologize, be professional, and resign. I couldn't do it either, that sounds VERY intense. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Thanks so much everyone. Your advice was very helpful!!!! I just emailed her since I won't see her for several days, and hopefully she will take it well. I just said it wasn't a good fit for me and that I was sorry and left the specifics out of it!!! |
Anonymous
| Let is know what happens! |
Anonymous
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Yikes (!!)
I would get out of there ASAP OP. Before you lose your sanity. You can give your two-week notice, but in these types of situations, most families will forgo the two weeks and let the nanny go immediately. Plan ahead for this to happen. An eleven hour day w/no T.V. sounds brutal to me. |
Anonymous
Do you really think that OP is still in that job PP? Seriously, give it a rest with the bringing up old posts and acting like it was from 3 days ago. It's very unlikely that your help/opinion does any good to the OP 9+ months later. I suggest you start looking at the date that the thread was first started before posting replies in the future. If it is anywhere past the first page or 2 of this forum, it is too old. |
Anonymous
| How did 2:07 find these random old posts? |